Am I being demanding?

[Problemlikemaria]

Had a death in the family this morning and told some friends. They have been supportive but know I am without family right now (they all live in Europe) and haven’t offered to see me. Although I have plans with them in the next week. They don’t have families or partners. Am I being needy? I have actually asked one if he can squeeze me in later as I am feeling strange.. It wasnt someone I was close to but was a close relative if that makes sense..

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I’m very sorry for your loss.

The problem with these kind of things is that everyone reacts differently.

Lots of people would want left alone to grieve for a bit (I would) so wouldn’t think to offer company.

You’ve done the right thing though in telling a friend what you need and asking for their support.

It’s hard living away from your family.

Sending unMumsnetty

I think you have done the right thing by asking someone.

I think ofren it’s hard to know what to do because you don’t want to impose yourself on someone but at the same time you don’t want to be seen as ignoring so if the friend can make it clear how you can support them it helps everyone

Sorry for your loss.

I was on holidays last week and my grandad passed away. I had so many offers of support (once I got home of course) but I am a bottle and I wanted nothing more than to be left alone. I know I respond to death badly, when a friend tells me someone has passed away I never know what to do or say. I have only ever lost two relatives and only in the last 3.5 years so maybe I just don't have enough experience with it. Maybe your friends are the same??

I hope you are ok, sending you hugs!