To ask how long it took for you to feel comfortable in a new home?

[MamaBear2181]

Hi,

I lived in my last home for 7 years approx. I moved in as a single mum with my three children who were quite young at the time. We went through a lot there and although the house or the area weren't very good it was our first 'proper' home together after a turbulent few years where we finally felt settled. I had just met my OH a bit before that, but we weren't serious yet, he hadn't met the kids etc.

Over the years we fell truly in love, wanted to move into a new place together and eventually have a baby of our own once we'd set up our new house. I fell pregnant though before we managed to move so ended up spending another two years living there, whilst i was pregnant, finished my college course ( i went to retrain after being made redundant) and then spent the first 18 months of our new babys life there. We had outgrown the house, it was cramped and we were pushed for space and the garden was tiny. We lived in a city centre in a bad area and we were all desperate to move.

Finally at the end of last year, fortune fell in our favour and we got the perfect house. We moved in the first of Jan. Its got 4 bedrooms, utility and conservatory, a huge garden (its not a stealth boast i promise) and i just love it, as do the family. Its just that i feel so displaced, it doesn't feel like my home. I can't sleep properly since we moved, and i really miss the house i thought i was desperate to get out of for years. I do suffer with depression and anxiety and it might be related to that somehow but i don't feel i'm settling here at all and if i woke up tomorrow morning back in my old house i wouldn't be the least bit surprised, or possibly not even unhappy about it! Please tell me i'm being a bloody idiot and i should be overjoyed to be here! I don't remember feeling this way when we moved before as it was always such a relief. Is this just normal when you move house or AIB an U mad cow?

We've lived in our current house for four years now. When we first viewed it, it felt very welcoming, and it's felt right from the moment we moved in.

I love that so many of you have responded with how much you love your homes now after it taking a while to settle in. This especially really made me smile I literally smile when I approach my street and my home!

Limensoda, what you say about the place where your children grew up is responsible in part for how I feel, they went from little nursery/reception/year 2 babies to two teens in high school my little girl going to comp in September. It’s all very end of an era feeling. It’s not all bad though as I say, the house really is lovely and once we’ve spent some time together here this place will feel special too.

Houses are bricks and mortar. Home is where your loving family are This is very true too.

Am feeling much better about things now, thanks everyone X

We've lived here for five years and I still feel like I'm house sitting for someone else. I can't really explain why.

@MamaBear2181

It will be different for you because your children are still with you and they will feel it's their home. My children visit me and say it doesn't feel like their old home.
I hope you will all be very happy there building new memories.

In a similar position. Moved into our own home 5 months ago but it’s in a different town to the city I always lived in so I suspect there’s an element of home sickness. I miss the bustle of the city, we now live in a quiet town where nothing really happens and there’s barely any shops. It’s just not a very convenient location but we loved the house and this was my compromise as this town is mid way between my work and DP’s. Plus DP wanted to live in a tiny village in the middle of nowhere which I just couldn’t do.

I don’t know when or if I’ll settle here. I suspect I may never... it just doesn’t feel like home.