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Buntybearbess · 30/01/2019 00:17

So my male friend and I were talking about booking a group holiday this summer, which we’ve done before with another two friends. We’ve asked the people we went away with last time and one can’t come and because that one can’t come the other won’t. She doesn’t want to go away with just me and him. Instead she wants me to drop him from the holiday and just go away with her and I won’t do that to my friend.

Now she’s sulking because she can’t have her way and I have radio silence from my friend because he knows that my friend won’t come without a fourth and I’m not sure either he or I are ready to go on holiday as a pair. We’d have fun but the idea is freaking us out a bit although if my stroppy friend drops out that’s what’s likely to happen.

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Contraceptionismyfriend · 30/01/2019 00:19

I'm a bit lost. She's told you she doesn't want to go on holiday with him. You chose him so now what are you waiting on?

Buntybearbess · 30/01/2019 00:20

Sorry posted too soon. AIBU to want my stroppy friend to stop trying to force me between her and my other friend and expect her to stop sulking, especially as she’s the one who is making the plans more difficult to sort by constantly changing where she’s willing to go, what she wants to pay and who she wants to come. I and my other friend have told her to invite whoever she wants but she’s in so much of a strop nothing is being done.

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Buntybearbess · 30/01/2019 00:22

I haven’t that’s the thing, I’m trying to keep her happy as well because I want to go on holiday with her, but I’m not telling him he can’t come because it was his idea. That’s not me making a choice, that’s me not being a dick to my friend when he’s done nothing wrong. Especially as she’d be devastated if I did that to her.

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itswinetime · 30/01/2019 00:24

3 is a shit number for a holiday I don't blame 'stroppy' friend for not wanting to do that. Maybe she doesn't know anyone else she thinks would fit with the group.

She doesn't have to go on holiday with you accept she doesn't want to and stop pressuring her because you aren't sure if you and male friend are ready to holiday as a pair!

Contraceptionismyfriend · 30/01/2019 00:29

She doesn’t like him. She doesn’t want to go on holiday. How is you wanting this all your way any different to what she is doing?
Just say maybe next time and drop it.

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