To wonder what the fuck is going on (pg related)?

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Ok.

My bf had a vasectomy back in July, and since then we have still been careful in terms of not having unprotected sex during my fertile times. He forgot to go to his appointment to check whether or not he had the all clear in Dec, and was rebooked for last week. He delivered his sample but forgot to put his name on it so we are still none the wiser. He’s now waiting for a further appointment.

Today I got paranoid as my period was 5 days late, and did a test this morning (cheapy dip one). Very faint positive. I told my bf and he came straight over with another test (clearblue digital) which I duly did. It said not pregnant. Then I read on here that those tests are notoriously unreliable, so I cracked it open to look at the lines on the strip. Another faint positive.

This is very confusing. We did have one incident within the last month where I thought it was still safe but it turns out it was on the day it changed to not safe (6 days before ovulation), so it was borderline dodgy but didn’t really think anything of it, as he’d had the snip over 6 months ago now. I know they can fail but the failure rate is 1%, so combined with my age (late thirties) and the fact i was still several days before ovulation, this all seems quite bizarre.

I’m never this late (unless pg!) and my boobs feel really weird and everything smells strange. However, this afternoon I have been bleeding, just a tiny bit. It seems to stop and start and it’s nothing like my usual periods.

Just to add to the mess, my bf bless him has been very trusting and I think he believes me, but the obvious thing is here that I’ve shagged someone else, but I definitely haven’t! I know it’s going through his head though (and will probably be at the back of his mind forever now). To make matters worse, he was away for 6 days right after the borderline dodgy incident and during my most fertile time, so that’s not helping me look any less guilty.

So with the bleeding, and only very faint positives, I don’t know if I am actually pregnant or not. I’m hoping for not as my family is definitely complete. Have attached pics for reference.

Well the tests look positive....

Looks positive to me too. Maybe you’ll get a darker result first thing in the morning.

Don’t panic. Those cheapy ones sometimes have evaporation lines! I had one before Christmas and nearly had a heart attack. I did a proper clearblue one that said not pregnant

That was mine, faint line turned out to be negative

I don’t get the whole ‘someone else’ bit. If he trusts you, he trusts you.

That’s reassuring faubant! I’m never this late though.

He does trust me, he’d have to be superhuman not to be wondering on some level though. He’s been lovely today.

False negatives are common but not false positives. Also, you’re more likely to get a positive result if you do the test with your first pee of the day because the concentration of pregnancy hormone is higher. Testing later in the day (in early pregnancy) is more likely to give a negative result. So it does look like you’re pregnant and the vasectomy isn’t preventing pregnancy.

Also, you can be fertile when you least expect it, so unprotected sex at any time of your cycle could result in pregnancy. This probably explains why you’re pregnant despite avoiding unprotected sex at certain times of the month.

As you’ve been having unprotected sex with a partner who hasn’t yet had the all clear for his vasectomy, it would be really unfair of him to suspect you of cheating! And you both have other things you need to think about at the moment. Good luck!

No idea whether or not you are pregnant. Unlikely as you say.

But why on earth would that lead him to think you have had sex with another man? If you are in a happy , secure relationship and trust one another it shouldn't cross his mind? It would be bad luck certainly but hardly the first time it had happened. I find you worrying about that strange.

It is not superhuman to trust your partner. Really it's not. And you don't have to spend every day or night together to prove yourself either. Why are you thinking like this?

We don’t have any trust issues at all, and like I said he’s been completely lovely all day and very supportive. I think it’s more my own paranoia at what might be going through his head. He hasn’t accused me of anything at all.

the obvious thing is here that I’ve shagged someone else,

It really isnt, there is a chance his vasectomy has been unsuccessful. He has no right to doubt you. If anyone is responsible for this it is him, he forgot his appointment and then forgot to label is sample.

It does look positive but do another one in the morning - then you will have more of an idea. Pregnancy tests are usually fairly clear positives by 6 days later aren't they?

Well your reaction is strange then. Why are you paranoid? Were you in an abusive relationship previosly?

Yeah.....congratulations!!!!
Pitter patter pitter patter.....