Daughter Touched Inappropriately at Swimming-Change Lessons?

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My daughter was touched inappropriately in her swimming lesson today by a boy in the class. She reported it to her Dad (I wasn't there) and he told the teacher who said she'd keep a close eye next week and told her to tell her immediately if it happens again.

I'm planning on checking with the pool tomorrow that they've raised it under safeguarding as a cause for concern. However I'm not keen on her being in a lesson with him. She told me that he touched her private parts, front and bottom (she does know the correct terms, but has been told they're private and to tell us if anyone touches her there) and that his big brother who is also in the class laughed. There's a space on the lesson beforehand, should I move her?

Men are different to 6 year old boys! I take the point about the red flags and older brother etc but a 6 year old cannot be compared to an adult man.

I wouldn't call the police but I'd be threatening it if the pool management don't take swift action.
The boys' parents should be told of the assault (and the laughing) and asked to deal with it or they're banned from the pool.

I'd contact the swimming coach. And say you aren't prepared for this to happen again so the boy has to be moved from the class. I'd also make it clear that you are prepared to raise this higher if that doesn't happen.

Yes they are 6 and it may have been innocent silliness but there is also the chance that this boy is being abused and that can't be brushed under the carpet.

llangennith - yes, poolmanagement must have a policy for this, involving a warning and/or banning from the pool.

It's one adult instructor to 6 children and she often splits the class 50/50 focusing on the group swimming, there's always a lot of messing about by the kids that aren't being instructed.

I've no issue with contacting children's services direct, but I'll see what the pool are doing first.

It's definitely not the same as a man assaulting a woman, but still concerning.

I would move her but make sure the pool take proper action - which hsould be detailed in their safeguarding procedures. His parents should be told. He should be spoken to by the coach with his parents present . There are other children in the class to consider. It may be a 6 year old being silly but his brother's reaction would also worry me and raise questions about their understanding of boundaries.

Shocking they have not referred it as a safeguarding or even bothered to speak to the boy parents.

Totally unacceptable. I have a 6 year old DD and I be kicking up a right fuss.

You should be calling the police as PP has suggested. The police will deal with it. It doesn't matter that they're only 6.

The swimming coach should have done more than suggest keeping an eye for next time, it's too late. And even if you move your daughter to another class, he is still a risk to other girls. Nip it in the bud now before he does it again.

which area do you live in - I can get you the number to report the incident to safeguarding ( county if thats not too specific)

The police couldn't do anything as he is under the age of criminal responsibility (10).

That aside, I would remove her from the class if I were you.

Hmm. What has someone done to that poor boy to make him think it's acceptable to touch your daughter. probably two victims here.......

omg.as mother of two ds i would broke their fingers.as daughter of bery loving dad..speaking to teacher would have happened after he dealt with it.bloody hell

.as mother of two ds i would broke their fingers.

you would break a six year old child's fingers?

Why are they all in the same changing room? Their safeguarding policy sounds like it needs looking at
I too would inform the police

@BarbaraRoyale it was in the pool not in the changing room

Police as they’ll know how to involve all agencies but start by looking at parents- records etc. Coaches round here are late teenage/ early 20s & good at swimming but re safeguarding I don’t doubt they’ve done the course but practically I don’t think they’d have a clue what to say, wrong route to expect something from them, they probaoeould be told by employer to refer any issues on anyway - “keep an eye out seems like coach hasn’t registered or is ill equipped to deal with what’s gone on here

Speak, immediately, to the pool manager and clarify the safeguarding quals of the teacher. Are the perpetrators the same age as your DD or older/younger? I swim regularly and am shocked at the age disparity in some classes - really little dots of girls with clearly pubescent big boys in the same lane/sessions. It really makes me uncomfortable but the manager is disinterested. I’ve raised this several times - deaf ears. It’s all about rainbow colours hat wise and that’s how they progress. Definitely an uncomfortable situation all round - hope you make some headway. Not a nice experience for you.

I would ask the swim teacher to speak to the parents. I’d be concerned that the boy was being abused and that’s where it’s come from. I’d also speak to management at the pool, they should have had better supervision or smaller groups to prevent this.
Hope your daughter is ok. I’d probably move class or suggest the other child was moved.

Don't ask the swim teacher to talk to the parents.
Job for trained SW.