To hit DEFCON 1 at my DF's suggestion?

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FDR in 30 days. I need help preparing for it (no idea what it entails) but on another note:

DF (71) has suggested I need his solicitor in the proceedings and that he will pay for their presence. I asked "for what purpose?"

He said "you'll need a man in the room."

I am outraged - in fact this is a serious understatement.

I am in my 30s. My legal team including my Barrister, are awesome. They rock, we are all women.

AIBU to go absolutely ballistic on him? I feel like he's trying to get a reaction and yet I'm struggling to contain myself.

On Dad, it’s not the 1950’s anymore, however thanks for the advice.

Not sure what FDR means?

But if you do get a solicitor, get a woman.

I'd be fuming. Silly old goat.

Really? I’d just roll my eyes and ignore him. No need for melodramatics.

You're reaction is so OTT. So your dad made a stupid comment? Just laugh at him at him and say you are fine with your team of women? I'm not sure what all the anger is about?

Thanks @Haud & @After - I too truly thought we were past the Stepford Wives / Little Women approach. My legal team are all female, as is my Barrister. (I think we represent a force to be reckoned with to be perfectly honest, but I am slightly biased).

Sorry for being melodramatic @ILove and @House - I didn't realise my reaction was OTT. I'll take him up on his offer - us females obviously can't cope with the pressure of hardcore court negotiations, particularly in 2019. We will "need a man" present in the team in order to get us through such a stressful situation.

Although it’s isnt the 1950s anymore, he grew up in the 1950s so I’d cut him some slack.

What’s an FDR?

My dad isn’t much younger than yours but he would never say that - though he was outnumbered 3:1 by women in our house for twenty years (even the dog was a girl 😂)

Best response to this is an eye roll. He cares, it just feels so alien these days.

@ILoveMaxiBondi Really? I’d just roll my eyes and ignore him. No need for melodramatics.

Me too, there are things in life to get absolutely ballistic this is not one of them - you dont have to take him up on his offer, just a laugh and oh you're so funny would suffice

Sorry for being melodramatic

And then follows it up with more melodramatics 😂

I'll take him up on his offer - us females obviously can't cope with the pressure of hardcore court negotiations, particularly in 2019. We will "need a man" present in the team in order to get us through such a stressful situation. hmm

Obviously you need a man to hold the Fort while one of your highly paid female team makes the tea.

Or maybe suggest to DF that his male solicitor makes the tea....

Maybe if you had a man there you’d be a little calmer hun xxxx

No idea what FDR is, but yes you'd be unreasonable to go ballistic. Can't imagine why you'd need a man for whatever FDR is, but I'd just take the piss and call him a dinosaur. No need for drama unless there's a big back story.

Franklin D Roosevelt

That’s all FDR means to me.

FDR = court hearing during divorce proceedings.

@BreakfastAtSquiffanys

You aren't wrong, but unless there's a backstory with him I'd take it in the supportive manner it seems to be intended.

I wonder if it has something to do with divorce? First divorce something.....?

Sorry cross post

Just laugh at him, loudly. Wipe a few tears from your eyes and say "Good one dad, I needed a laugh!"

I think FDR is financial dispute resolution...