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To tell MIL that it's my wedding and that I choose the dj/entertainment

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theonerealdiva22 · 29/01/2019 18:54

So me and DH are getting married soon. Anyway MIL keeps complaining about the DJ I chose. This dj is a local one and the name Has my location in it so I'm not gonna say who it is but they are typically a club dj but they also have packages Available for weddings.

Anyway so the DJ Loves to play EDM, house and hip hop but will also play all the chart stuff. I also happen to love EDM, Hip hop, and chart as well as a bit of house and so does DH and about 97% of the guests as well as my 15 year old twin DD and DS.
This dj is also giving us a lot for what we paid. We are getting the following. I'll try to include photos for as many of these as possible

  • DMX'd uplights (lights placed around the room to colour it. Because of the DMX they can be synced with the music according to the dj)
  • dancing on a cloud
  • a Uplit dj facade
  • white speaker skirts with lights underneath
  • 2 speakers with a very high quality subwoofer
  • 4 moving head lights for the dance floor
  • a Disco ball type light for the first dance
  • Her amazing MC'ing skills (a friend of mine booked him and he literally got onto the dance floor and danced with us it was so fun)
anyway MIL is complaining about this. She wants us to Book BIL who's a dj. Not to be rude but he sucks. He's pricy, he won't play the music I want, his lighting is horrible and a tone of other problems. As well as that he's been really nasty to be and DH a lot. Also when I say he won't play the music I want I mean he mainly plays country and won't play anything outside that not even For the first dance. So AIBU to tell MIL it's my wedding I'm picking the dj. DH is also Agreeing with me to book the dj I want he was the one who brought up the idea about booking him. Below I've included photos of all the things I mentioned in order
To tell MIL that it's my wedding and that I choose the dj/entertainment
To tell MIL that it's my wedding and that I choose the dj/entertainment
To tell MIL that it's my wedding and that I choose the dj/entertainment
OP posts:
theonerealdiva22 · 29/01/2019 20:45

@LoniceraJaponica it's Electronic dance music. But some of it such as David Guetta is more like pop with a bit of a soft Danceable beat

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MimiSunshine · 29/01/2019 20:49

Why even entertain the BIL being hired as the DJ request / demand?

Surely it’s just a case of ‘MIL, BIL has said highly offensive things about people we (DP and I) are close too.
He’s not invited to the wedding so Quite frankly to even think of paying him to do a job we wouldn’t be happy with is ridiculous.
Please don’t mention this again.’

LoniceraJaponica · 29/01/2019 20:53

Thank you. I had no idea Grin
I agree that your MIL should stay out of it.

stayathomegardener · 29/01/2019 21:46

Awwww I like the cloud picture.

Misses point of the thread completely.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 29/01/2019 21:51

I’m just picturing your horrible BIL turning up and trying to hijack proceedings with a fistful of Kenny Rogers albums.

But seriously, MIL needs to butt out. So if she starts on about the topic, hang up or walk away. Seriously, it’s your wedding, what can she do? If you fear sabotage, then have a word to your own DJ and tell him to only ever speak to you and your DP about the arrangements - nobody else!

MorningRichie · 29/01/2019 22:14

Tell the miserable cow that if she cant keep her trap shut, BIL won't be the only one not invited.

sollyfromsurrey · 29/01/2019 22:24

Just tell her the DJ is booked. The topic is closed and just dint respond to her about it ever.

BackforGood · 29/01/2019 23:24

Surely it’s just a case of ‘MIL, BIL has said highly offensive things about people we (DP and I) are close too.
He’s not invited to the wedding so Quite frankly to even think of paying him to do a job we wouldn’t be happy with is ridiculous.
Please don’t mention this again.’

I think, from your drip feed though, about you not even inviting him to the wedding, it is a completely different question.

Of course it is fine to book your own DJ even though it sounds a bit 'niche' for a wedding and I doubt anyone is going to disagree with you.
However, what you are really doing (asking about?) is not inviting him to your wedding. At that point, I think more people will understand why your MiL is trying to find a way for that to happen.

Still, up to you of course, but a different question really.

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