To just not understand why sister is behaving like this?

[babyno5]

I’ll try to keep this brief!!
I have an older sister and it’s not always been the easiest relationship. It is ALWAYS me who maintains contact. We live about an hour away from each other. She doesn’t drive so if she’s coming here for weekend it’s a double journey for us - done without complaint! She can be self centred but learned to live with that!! Anyway going back 3 months she was expected at ours for a family party and on this occasion someone else was bringing her. She called an hour before hand to say that she couldn’t make it. I was fuming as it was my daughters 18th and even up until earlier that morning she still said she was coming. I didn’t fallout or say anything inflammatory on phone. Next day (DD actual birthday) no contact or birthday wishes from her aunt.
Fast forward 6 weeks and I wish DS happy birthday and send a card. Christmas comes and goes and no contact from her and today I find she’s blocked me in Facebook!!
All I’ve done is say to my partner that I’m fed up always being the one to initiate contact and I’m just not doing it anymore.
She has previous for going NC-twice before when I’ve had breakdowns and this time I’m going through some physical health issues. DP has joked that maybe she’s scared I ask her for a kidney 😂😂.
There is just the 2 of us now as both parents dead (I won’t bore you but there was prima donna issues then too!).
I even posted pictures of my new granddaughter born just before Christmas and nothing from her then either!!
Maybe this is more WWYD than AIBU?

I’d leave her to it. I don’t subscribe to all the bloods thicker than water crap. If people treat you shabbily why should you accommodate them in your life?
My parents died in 2006, by 2012 my relationship with my sister was virtually non existent, she’s a self absorbed, pompous snob and without the parental “glue” there’s no incentive to endure her crap.

Thanks Frankie I suspect your probably right. I know I'm not perfect but always tried to be supportive. My daughter said a funny thing yesterday when we were talking. She said that it really annoyed because whenever there was an event or conversation her aunt had to be the centre of it. I hadn't really noticed that but she is spot on. I guess I just became immune to it 😂

I would do less, lots, lots less. Less effort, less contact, less travel, less interest. In time you may find you're ready for nc, or happy with lc.

Count your lucky stars and live your life without this drama queen

I suspect she wanted to make you go and get her on the day of your DD's birthday, in order to make it about her, and is quietly furious that you didn't. MIL did the same to BIL at Xmas once and he said oh dear, what a shame, see you soon then. She was FUMING silly cow.

Don't bother getting in touch, you've done nothing wrong!

Also, does she have children/family of her own? If not I bet she's lonely and jealous of you.

Just leave it and wait for her to come back to you. If she does, she does. If she doesn't, she doesn't! Either way, just enjoy the break. My dsis did that to me. It lasted six months before she sent me another friend request.

@ContessaIsOnADietDammit I probs my would have but I was up to my eyes in sausage rolls!!
She does have children-grown up but I know they get fed up with her drama as they've said as much. My partner said about the jealousy thing funnily enough

@Singlenotsingle ha yes that's a good way to look at it-a break! Not to mention the reduction in petrol/mileage etc 😂

Glad your daughter can see through her - hopefully she wasn't perturbed by the birthday no-show (and probably secretly pleased). As the others have said, let DS stew in her own nasty juices. Don't let that stop you keeping in touch with her kids though, no reason they should miss out on y'all.

@SpoonBlender it's quite funny because sis also mentioned she'd bought DD a voucher for her birthday (never materialised) but we joke whenever we go into said retailer "oh you could buy this with your voucher". We've "spent" it 10 times over 😂
Yes we will keep in touch with the others x

Excellent - DD's clearly a star!