Aibu to be THAT old person (lighthearted).

[recklessruby]

So I have just had my 51st birthday and celebrated it with adult dc and a selection of friends from all age groups.
I had coffee and cake with my peers then a night out with jaegerbombs and adult dc etc as old school friends declined that.
I have dip dyed pink hair and usually wear jeans/leggings/boots etc in black or one item a vibrant colour (pink that night).
Bff laughing about our differences and says I will be THAT old lady one day. I 've decided that's cool. I will just be me but older.
So would you agree that a lot of middle aged and older women feel that it's got to be everything beige and your hair too?
Aibu to fully intend to drink shots and dance and wear purple on my 80th birthday ?

I dont know what the beige look is and I find it slightly patronizing to your friend saying shes fully embraced the beige.

live and let live all the way

I'm in my 50s. None of my friends match your 'beige' description. They're just getting on with jobs, interests, holidays etc. If you want to dye your hair pink and go clubbing, fine. But it's hardly necessary to 'prove' you're not old and beige in your fifties. Very few people are.

My mother is in her eighties and doesn't wear beige. Surely you would only wear it if it suits you no matter what age you are.

Oh and my mother's in her eighties and she doesn't match your description either.

I'm 45 this year and pink hair isn't my style, but leggings/boots and bright colours definitely are. I'm working hard to maintain my body and I'm not going to hide it. I know I've read that no one "should" wear leggings over 30 - but that doesn't apply if you've got a nice bum.

My friend who just turned 50 looks fabulous in leather trousers and mini dresses...she's a lawyer!

I've started to give into the beige already I fear (and I'm 2 decades younger)
I spent an unnatural amount of time looking at the Pastel hair colours in Superdrug the other day so think I might need to be a little more daring (I can't have bright hair colours because my complexion won't take it)

I used to love wearing leopard print and neon colours before the DCs but gradually have got duller and duller

I am 58 and have some "beige" friends who are very sensible and tweedy. Some of us though are still just as you describe, enjoy nights out and holidays with adult children and having fun
I think you just have to do what you enjoy but I hope I don't go beige too soon!

I’m 55 and HATE beige.

I wear stuff from Zara. And l don’t have beige hair.

I like beige. It has nothing to do with my age. I’m 20 years younger than you and wouldn’t like to have pink hair. Its not my style. But it’s not age related. Your pink hair doesn’t make you young any more than my brown hair makes me old.

Basically this is about you celebrating that you don’t conform to the stereotype of “old” which really isn’t valid any more nowadays.

Maybe not jäger bombs (can't stand the taste) but I'd go to a gin bar and try as many as I could before I fell asleep

I'm nearly 64 and wear jeggings, boots, colourful tops, dye my hair (or rather, have it dyed for me). Never drunk shots though, but a bottle of sauvignon blanc is fine. I don't know anyone who is a bit beige unless they are over 80, and most of them aren't either. A lot of the people I know (60's and 70s) also have active lifestyles either visiting gyms, exercise classes, cycling, tennis etc. I think the days of the little old lady with permed hair, twin set , tweed skirt and sensible shoes, are passing, if not passed.

I bought an MG when I was 56

I bought one as my retirement present to myself, sod flowers and steamer chairs! My ideal new career would be driving the safety car round Silverstone, the thought of all those cars behind me!

... Although, tbf, a twinset and tweed skirt is possibly the coolest outfit ever ...

I think the days of the little old lady with permed hair, twin set , tweed skirt and sensible shoes, are passing, if not passed

It’s a style. Lots of young (and old) women like that sensible style and choose to wear it. Lots of women of all ages choose not to. Your style has nothing to do with your age. I find it quite derogatory to be labelled “beige” because I choose not to dye my hair or wear makeup or bright colours or high heels.

No-one is every going to write a love song called “Lady in Beige”. Go for it

It's about who are on the inside rather than what you are on the outside. Bit of a shame to label your friend beige as it sounds a bit patronizing.

I'm rather well known at my work for my collection of various coloured and glittery Docs. I have arthritis and fused toe joints so shoes are extremely restricted. If I have to wear flat, comfy granny shoes, then they are going to be the funkiest granny shoes.

I also celebrated being free from dress regulations for the first time since I was 21 by dyeing my hair purple (didn't show enough) and getting my nose and helix pierced. I'm now waiting for the grey to spread so that I can have various colours without bleaching as it's waist-length and I don't want to screw up the condition.

Oh, and my father was one of those who thought any colour as long as it was drab was fine. The worst sin you could commit was to have people LOOK at you or even - worst of all - TALK about you. Fuck that.

I’m 52 and sometimes wear beige. But I’m fantastically good looking so can carry it off.

Do young women really wear twin sets and tweed skirts?
I must get out more.

Surely the privilege of growing old is to live your life as you wish and not worrying about the impression others have of you?

Whether you're wearing beige or dyeing your hair pink, just do it, don't worry about being the 'wacky one' or the 'beige' one.

Just drawing attention to my username, for those of you who know the poem.

Just found a recent pic of you OP.

I’m in my late 50s and live in Brighton. I’m going to have to be a lot more outrageous than dip dyed pink hair and a few jäger bombs to be considered anything other than conventional.

There are a lot of shades between 'beige' and bright pink.

I am 50. Personally beige does not suit me and I agree that as you get older, it is more flattering to wear a little colour. Not sure I would go so far as to dye my hair a neon colour or acquire a tattoo. I am not into making statements or calling attention to myself, only looking reasonably groomed when I am at work and out and about. I don't think I dress that differently from my much younger colleagues.

Guess you would call that dull.