When being teary after having a baby becomes not normal

[CustardCreamLover]

I had my baby boy just over a week ago by emergency c section, he was 5 weeks early and we're still in hospital. I've been here for 10 days (was admitted before he was born).
I'm crying a lot. Sometimes because I'm upset and sometimes because I'm happy and sometimes because this is all just so overwhelming.
I rang my husband up in tears last night because I couldn't get our baby to eat anything. He has jaundice and he needs to eat to help get over it and then we can go home. My husband told me that new mothers shouldn't cry as much as I am. He says it's not normal.
I've not been in my own home for 10 days, I've had major surgery, I've got not support most of the time, my ban was early because I didn't have enough amniotic fluid for him and now I can't feed him properly. I feel like I'm failing him and to have my husband say that to me made me feel even worse.

So am I normal or do I have a problem?

Your birth was far from ideal I meant

You sound totally normal. Hormones go crazy after birth and when milk is coming in, plus you're probably sleep deprived. Throw in an early section, the adjustment of having a first baby, plus all the worry of feeding and of course you're going to be crying buckets.

I had an early section with my first, she was small and very sleepy and feeding was really tough. She could only latch on using a nipple shield and I also had to pump milk and top her up with formula. It took ages to feed her. The good news is that it really does get easier as they slowly getting a bit bigger and more alert. Virtual hugs to you and hang on in there.

Your husband needs to read these responses I think. It's time to band together and he's going to have to adjust to you being mega emotional starting out.

So it appears your husbands knowledge of birth comes from the movies then? Where perfect families bask in the afterglow with soft music playing in the background?
You are perfectly normal. Your husband however...... well he's deluded, insensitive and naive

i spent the first 3 weeks in a daze and cried pretty much continuously. i cried happy tears, tired tears, frustrated tears, sad tears that i couldnt sit and have a cup of tea in the evening with my husband anymore. 11 weeks on i still cry but not as much. my new reason for crying is because my baby is growing so fast and i’m sad at how quickly it’s all going. there is nothing wrong with you. your body has gone through a shock, you’re exhausted, hormones are all over the place and everything has changed. it does get better!