Didn't let BIL hold daughter

[graenne]

I'll keep it short.

BIL came over. Had been smoking cigars and a pipe all day. Stank of smoke (that awful stale smell).

He wanted to hold 2.5 month old daughter.

I kindly said sorry not today. I genuinely said it kindly (inside I was actually feeling sick because of how bad he smelt).

He's stormed out of the house saying that I'm BU. Me and my partner (his brother) are both surprised as I was genuinely nice about it and just going by what the HV said.

WIBU?

Email him the link showing SIDS is closely related to smoking. Idiot bloke.

He's text DP apologising and said I embarrassed him...

You did the right thing and it said it in a good way.

He should be apologising to you. He embarrassed himself.

You embarassed him? That’s not right and it’s not an apology. And that’s what your DH needs to reply. With a link to explain about smokers not holding babies.

Yep.

Remember all those news reports of children dropping like flies during the 80s. It was all the cigarette smoke and smell of stale fag's.

We lost nine on my street alone. And two on the estate who found an ashtray which still had a few butts inside, they didn't stand a chance, poor little mites.

@Lushlemming wouldn't know I was born in '91 👍

It's not even just the risk of SIDS even though that's a big problem in my book. It's the fact that cigar and pipe smoke smells absolutely vile, is full of disgusting chemicals and i would rather my child was exposed to that shit as little as possible.