To think some posters take comments far too personally?

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To the point where having a general discussion is tricky.

Someone complains about a teacher/TA and the thread fills up with teachers and TAs threatening to quit/saying they quit for THIS reason.

Someone posts about a childminder and childminders start crying about how amazing they are.

And SAHMs and on and on.

I'm a teacher.

Some teachers are sex offenders, some are shit, some are bullies.

I'm none of the above, so if someone wants to post about one of the above, it has no bearing on me.

It's weird!

There's a lot of projection, too.

Aye. People lack self awareness as to how their own situation/baggage clouds their perception of the OP.

You talking to me OP? WTF is your problem?

(Joke, sorry, couldn't resist)

It's not weird.

It's called balanced discussion. You know, giving an alternative opinion.

Agree with the poster who says it's projection

I saw this in action when a woman was upset by a trolley collector at the supermarket

People projected allsorts of things and accused her of prejudice but in the process of that accusation made lots of prejudicial statements of their own

The projection on here is dreadful. Any thread where someone has been allegedly left out of a social gathering will elicit dozens of posters saying she’s been “wendied” and all the women (it’s always women) who excluded her are nasty, backstabbing bitchy cunts and various other horrendously misogynistic insults. All because someone didn’t get invited somewhere, it’s very clear they’re projecting their own experience and not even listening to the op.

And MILs ...

Yep. & you get flamed for the most innocent comment. I once wrote ‘we’re having another girl (yay!)’
& got a response
‘I hope it would of been a ‘yay’ if it were a boy too?’
na, I would of dropped him outside the nearest orphanage pronto. I triple check everything I write incase something could be turned against me!!

MumMumMum1
It's very dismissive just to triple check , you should be doing it at least 4 times ffs

A lot of posters feel the need to justify themselves when there's actually no need, they should just roll their eyes and not take the bait.

@Onlyjoinedforthisthread 😂🤪 Been ripped a new butt hole a few times!! Im very cautious, a mumsnet pro

I object when someone comes along and makes a blanket statement about whatever group. For example, apparently all midday supervisors/dinner ladies/whatever you want to call them, are uneducated, thick, bullies, care nothing for the children and know nothing about nutrition. That one comes up frequently and you can bet your arse I'm going to take offence at that one.

Giving a perspective from the other side can be useful but taking it personally and projection usually isn't.

Omg I can’t believe you check things 3 times how insensitive can you be? There are some people in this world who can only check things once

Yes, when the stupidity of anti-vaxxers comes up. Someone will always pipe up "I cannot vaccinate my child as they are allergic, thanks for making me feel like shit", completely ignoring the point that we need herd immunity for children just like theirs. Also, threads with screaming kids and parents ignoring them, preferring to look at their phones, cue "Should all mothers of young children never go out then?". Jesus wept...

I get really annoyed by Ableism but other than that there are some proper knobs on here.

Like the Mrs Hinch haters. I don't know or follow the woman but bloody hell, pages upon pages of crap about how awful she is. How hard is it not to watch her?!

Anyone popped up to ask who made you queen of the Internet ?

I especially love posters who get really overinvested in showing off their knowledge (or lack of) a particular subject when it’s not what the discussion is about.

Well actually since you asked, the Roman Empire started to decline when ...

I agree with you op - this really annoys me. If you're not the sort of teacher that's shit, or lazy or terrible to kids then the thread is not about you!

I'm a civil servant and I know there are shit, lazy, corrupt and useless civil servants. I'm not one of them, so I don't get offended if people post about the terrible service they have received.

I’ve developed a thicker skin and learned to give much less of a fuck!!

@Rockbird

supervisors/dinner ladies/whatever you want to call them, are uneducated, thick, bullies, care nothing for the children and know nothing about nutrition

Now I know that one's not true because my mother was a dinner lady. She herself was a bully with very little clue about nutrition, but I knew all her colleagues and most of them were lovely

I got smacked by a dinner lady for burping. I did not burp, I scraped my chair. I am still bearing a grudge

Yeah when people take things personally, it's obvious it's coz it hit a raw nerve.

You can tell when you have got to the truth, and hit a raw nerve, because your post gets deleted. People only tell teacher when you have upset them with the truth. Poor snowflakes.

I wouldn't give a shit or get offended - unless what was said actually stung (because it was true.)

I got smacked by a dinner lady for burping. I did not burp, I scraped my chair. I am still bearing a grudge

Smack first, ask questions later!