My DH has never really been the type to throw compliments my way and he doesn't very often say ILY which for the first 27 years of our marriage I just accepted, but now I need a bit more to be honest. I am feeling old and i would like him to say I look nice or he loves me sometimes, like I do to him to just give me a bit of a boost. When I have asked him if he could possibly try to be a bit more forthcoming with his positivity he says its not his style and he has never been like that so why should he start now. I sort of accepted this, although I wasn't happy that he refused to even try , but when we went out with friends last week, the female of the other couple came in and the first thing he said to her was "Oh Hi xxxx, you look nice" He has always been able to compliment strangers but not me for some reason, I have only just noticed this after 30 years
(I Know !!) I shot him a look when he said this and later that night he said, "Well its just what you say to people isn't it, I don't really mean it, why would you want me to say things to you and sound false" So basically what he is saying then is I never look nice and he doesn't love me. I am a bit pissed off to say the least. I don't know if IABU expecting a different DH from the one I have accepted for 27 years, AIBU?