Can anyone advise me? I have been approached quite a few times (more so recently) by friends of mine who basically are telling me that Im giving too much of myself to others. I appear to have one of those faces wherein complete strangers will chat to me on public transport, colleagues will confide in me about all sorts of things, I know alot of very personal information about lots of different people - all prompted by them.
I try to listen best I can and be gentle and compassionate in my response - I will admit I dont have the answers but am content to listen. My friends however are telling me that people are taking advantage of me. I will admit there is one friend in particular who can be quite demanding of time but I have been direct with her about that and not being able to meet her needs constantly.
Im starting to feel like Im wrong to be myself. I dont tend to enjoy arguing with people and - apart from when it comes to something to do with my dc - very forgiving of most things. Ie if someone was meanto me and apologised I will accept that. I have been told by family members, previous partners and now my friends that I am too soft, too forgiving and need to be more selfish. Tbh being that way feels alien to me.
Is it me, should I change and if so how?