To think my DM reaction was quite sadistic

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Me and my DS visited a farm/play area yesterday. We went to see the chickens and turkeys. He ran ahead of me (not too far) and put his hands on the metal fence. The turkey then bit him. He had a tiny scratch but was a bit shaken up and obviously I picked him up and comforted him.
My parents came over in the afternoon and I told them what happened. It was a bit funny how he kept telling us about his finger and the manner he was saying it but I wouldn't say I got pleasure out of him getting hurt.
But my DM absolutely laughed her head off, she found it hilarious until the point she was crying with laughter. I said ok it weren't that funny but she just carried on and said it was so funny!
For background he's 2.5 years old and my DM seems to find it funny when people hurt themselves e.g. trip over hurt themselves or other incidents like it.

Ds got pecked by a turkey at the same sort of age. I absolutely laughed. It was funny, he didn't bleed to death, there wasn't a mark, he cried for about 30 seconds then carried on with his day (admittedly giving the turkey pen a wide berth).

My dh laughed later when we told him too.

You can't say 'ds got pecked by a turkey' and not laugh.

When my DS was two he got pecked by a peacock (and it it then stole his chocolate). I didn't laugh at the time, but did after. As do other people if told the story.

You seem to have issues with your mum that as exasperated by this incident. You find his retelling amusing, so did she. What's the real issue?

Not overreacting there is something about someone else laughing at your child’s pain that is incredibly upsetting.
When I was growing up my mum continually told the “hilarious story” of me her third child crying a lot and being unsettled one evening at six weeks old that she gave me to sharp smacks to the hand she said I looked shocked and immediately stopped.
I never found it particularly funny just embarrassing but when she retold the story when my DS had colic at around six weeks I felt incredibly upset and angry.
My DSIL who I think my mum thought would find it funny looked at her in total disbelief (she’s quite strict with her DCs) my mums never mentioned it again.

...your tiger instincts kick in and all you want to do is protect them and kill anyone/anything who harms them!

He got nipped by a turkey because he stuck his hand into the pen. “Tiger instincts”: over the top much? Or do you always abdicate all responsibility for your actions over absolutely nothing?

Sometimes things just catch you and make you laugh even though they aren’t that funny. I know for me the idea that I shouldn’t laugh at something sometimes makes me laugh even harder
This ^^. It can be the dullest thing that's not remotely funny but it just triggers the desire to laugh.

I do know my mother and obviously I know what she's been like over other incidents so I guess it would be hard to get the jist from this one incident that doesn't seem much.
Other times I've just brushed it off and thought well she found that a bit too funny but because he's my son I don't like the thought of her finding it hilarious when he was upset by it. Yea it was a funny accident but like I've said it was so funny to the point of crying with laughter and couldn't breath

I think the crying with laughter is rather OTT - if your DS was saying it in a funny way I may smile and have a little laugh with him - trying to lighten the mood, so to speak - but yes I think her reaction was odd. I think some people don't know how to react to these situations: I've noticed over the years that if one of my DC hurts themselves - quite badly, not just a bang or a scrape - my DF just ignores them. He could be the only person near them, and he will turn away or continue what he's doing (reading the paper, watching TV, etc). He doesn't comfort them or even help them up.

Some people just don't know how to deal with pain - physical or otherwise.

I remember my mum laughing her head off when my brother was pecked and then chased by a goose. He ended up laughing too. It was a life long joke between the two of them.

Calling her sadistic is a bit strong.

My mum was like this when I was a child, I remember her and my brother laughing at me once when I was being sick and wrenching (apparently I was making funny noises), I was crying because I felt scared and she was crying with laughter, it’s really stuck in my head and now I fear being sick.

It’s not a normal reaction to laugh at someone’s pain, not when it’s someone you love, laughing at you’ve been framed is different.

I mean there's been times in the past when She really should have been more concerned e.g. my sister being in hospital from hurting herself at a party we were all at. Her and my aunty were laughing and messing around. While my sister was scared and hurt. So I guess I know what she's like and didn't like her finding it hilarious even though it wasn't really a massive deal

Yea it was a funny accident but like I've said it was so funny to the point of crying with laughter and couldn't breath
Thing is, if she's laughing this much then it's so much more likely that she got a fit of the giggles - if she was just a sadist then it would be usual laughing surely?
(My mum did something very similar to me when I was young & I'll admit I was (still am) gutted over it but it was something I'd created rather than something that had happened iyswim - this has actually made me think that maybe she wasn't being a bitch and just had a fit of the giggles, though me then crying should have stopped her!)
If you get the giggles you get the giggles. It can be the most inopportune moment and be really inappropriate in terms of who it involves. But I think if they really can't stop laughing then you have to accept it's not a voluntary thing and they don't mean any harm.

Many people react like this they find other people's discomfort hilarious, hence the enduring popularity of slapstick humour. Have a few sharp words with her.

An old friend of mine used to piss herself laughing if someone tripped or something silly like that, used to annoy the fuck out of me.

I can understand having a little chuckle at him retelling the story. To me though she sounds sick to laugh uncontrollably.

My mother was like that. She's dead now, but whenever one of us does something stupid and hurts ourselves we roll around laughing at the memory of how she'd have laughed, tears rolling down her cheeks...

I can't see anything sadistic in your DM finding it amusing. Do you have something else in your nose against her?

"hurt", not "hurts" (I think )

That is her usual laughing. Ok maybe sadistic is strong but she got pleasure out of his pain and upset. As she does with alot of people. She finds it more funny if she knows the person

And she does have form for laughing when people hurt themselves.

Years ago, a friend of mine fell off a roof and broke his leg. He best friend was laughing so hard, he could barely call an ambulance. It then transpired that statistically the funniest thing to an Englishman is seeing his best mate fall off a roof. Who knew? and how the hell did they quantify it??

Anywya, it sounds like your Mum's reaction was a bit OTT but perfectly normal in the realms of human reaction. Especially as the Germans, among others, even have a word for it.

To be honest "toddler bitten by turkey" would set me off too.

Only read a few comments and already somebody is calling this disturbing
Get a bloody grip!

Tiger instinct over a peck from a turkey is utterly ridiculous. Kids get scrapes and bruises it’s part of growing up! I would laugh at a peck from a turkey. I wouldn’t laugh if he’d fallen and broken his leg. I think you’re being far too precious!

It’s not a normal reaction to laugh at someone’s pain

It is! It really is!

I refer everyone who finds this abnormal to that immensely popular saturday night tv programme, sorry cant recall name just now, which consists entirely of embarassing and/or painful accidents, often involving children, being filmed by people who should be helping them. Hurrah, how funny.

OP, my SIL is like your DM. Once I tripped over in the street and knocked myself unconscious, and had to be taken to hospital in an ambulance - nothing broken but I had a split lip, swollen face and black eyes for a week or so afterwards. My SIL found it absolutely hilarious. Actually sending me messages telling me how funny she thought it was.

To be fair there is something quite funny about this, maybe I’m a sadist like the OPs mother. I wouldn’t go as far as the sending messages part but I’d probably have a wee chuckle.