AIBU to ask how to make friends as an adult?

[Justagirlwholovesaboy]

Just as the title say, no children, don’t have a hobby. Off work due to health issues. Any advice?

Ok maybe this wasn’t meant to be :)

You sound just like me! Chronic illness, don't work or study, how to meet people? I do not know!

You say you don’t have a hobby, but are you interested in anything? There are classes you could take - aqua aerobics might be fun and not too strenuous if your health issues are getting in the way. Is there a local book group you could join in with - maybe ask at library. Are you able to do any volunteering?

I do meet people when waking the dog but it’s superficial. I don’t swim and due to health issues can’t join a gym. A book club would work, are there advertisements? Not seen any, how does one join?

Ask at the library. They may run one or have a list of book clubs in the area.

How about a local rambling group or the WI?

I will look at book clubs, walking far isn’t my thing, maybe one day once b12 is sorted

I don’t know either and I’ve got a job, kids and go to the gym - I don’t speak to anyone in the gym but recommend it if you have mobility problems, my gym always has disabled people working with specialist trainers (including me albeit you couldn’t tell, I’m so much better because of it too). I’ve volunteered a lot and churches etc are good if you are even a little bit religious, pick wisely if you don’t want it full on. You may not make deep friendships but it’s great to just speak to people you’d never otherwise meet. Adult college courses are an option, just see what takes your fancy. Or there are online meet up sites if you search.

To be honest, it 8s all about how you frame it, you need an interest. People need to bond over something. What can you do for enjoyment? Something that gives you satisfaction? Meeting similar people will be the added bonus.

This is what MeetUp was designed for
Volunteering?

Ditto Meetup. I’ve used it twice when I’ve moved to new cities, and met some good friends through it.

Have a look for any local Facebook groups too, there are always things like book clubs, choirs, fitness classes, yoga, coffee mornings etc advertised on the ones for my local area.