Relationship brake down!

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TGNL · 27/01/2019 23:35

So my DD is now 3 months old and I’ve been with my BF for nearly two years now..recently he’s been going over my past with a fine tooth comb getting bad and making me feel like a slag for things that I’ve done in the past with other people.. I just don’t know what to do any more he’s saying he doesn’t trust me but I have gave him no reason to not trust me.. he go’s through my phone he does have really bad mental health issues aswell.. don’t get me wrong it’s not all bad when it’s good it’s amazing and he’s a dead good dad and my DD is a daddy’s girl but when it’s bad it’s rediculos
Any help?

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LovingLola · 27/01/2019 23:37

Tell him it’s over.

Singlenotsingle · 27/01/2019 23:40

So he's squeaky clean then, is he? A virgin until he met you? You need to nip this in the bud before you turn into a Stepford Wife.

Slothcuddles · 27/01/2019 23:42

What mental health problems does he have? Is he on meds? If so is he taking them? Does he have a yearly support plan, if so does he follow it?

Sparklesocks · 27/01/2019 23:42

Unless you want your DD to grow up thinking it’s ok if her future partners berate her for her sexual history and go through her phone then you really need to get out

ilovesooty · 27/01/2019 23:50

He sounds horrible quite frankly. Get rid.

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TGNL · 27/01/2019 23:50

Just after DD was born I made him go to the doctor to sort his mental health out the doctor says it anxiety and depression but surely it can’t be as I’ve it had before and was nothing like this but yes he’s on meds now he has to go back to the doctors once a month..
He’s promising me it won’t happen again as I had a mini brake down after I put DD to bed :/

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LovingLola · 28/01/2019 00:10

How old are you ?
And him ?

LovingLola · 28/01/2019 00:10

Put a PIN number on your phone

Nayeds · 28/01/2019 00:15

Paranoid personality can become abusive over time. You're not a slag for having sex with other men before you met. Is it going to take a mini breakdown every time to shut him up? That sounds exhausting to me. If you are bent on staying with him then you could just constantly keep making him feel reassured he's the best you have had blah blah. Or leave him...When does mental health become a excuse for being a arsehole? Lord knows I understand mental health issues, but any more of this and YOU will be the one going mad.

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TGNL · 28/01/2019 00:23

I’m 24 and he’s 22 I’ve got a pin in my phone but he knows it I have no problem with him going through my phone cos I know he won’t find anything I don’t donabything all I do everyday is look after our DD cook clean and look after my poorly grandad.. do yous think a trail separation will help?

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