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AIBU?

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Spa day at my old gym

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Oldhouses · 27/01/2019 22:09

AIBU ...
Basically I’ve had a really challenging year and changed careers, left my long term partner and the home we had together.
Overall, I’m a lot happier but my new job is more stressful and I’ve comfort eaten with all the different emotions I’ve experienced and losing my routine.

Until these changes, I was an avid gym goer and had lost around 5 stone. I’m not too sure how much I’ve gained but it is noticeable and I’m embarrassed when I see people who haven’t seen me in a while.

I’ve told my mum all of this and explained how as much as I miss the gym, I feel to ashamed to go as I was a ‘success story’ and now I’ll be seen as a failure. I used to go six days at week for nearly three years so I’m not being dramatic, I knew the staff particularly well and did lots of classes.

Mum and I said we would go on a spa day soon and I should let her know my availability - at the time we mentioned two local places. My mum has just texted me to say she’s already booked a voucher to redeem for a spa day at my GYM.

AIBU to really not want to go? Part of me thinks I have to as she’s paid money trying to do something nice but she has totally disregarded everything I said to her over Christmas. I would be on edge all day particularly as I’d be wearing my swim costume.

OP posts:
user1473878824 · 27/01/2019 22:11

Oh OP. Don’t worry. No one is going to judge you at all! Go, get pampered and enjoy the day. And if it makes you feel better in general, go back to the gym! Not a single person will think you’ve failed.

BigBumandMumTum · 27/01/2019 22:15

My gym has a spa and I promise you I've never noticed any spa users weight, if you're really self conscious can you keep the gown on in any communal areas?

LellyMcKelly · 27/01/2019 22:24

Go, have a lovely time, and you might enjoy the feel of being back there. Nobody is judging you. Gym staff are usually really supportive and they’ll probably just be really pleased to see you. I’m a big heffalump but at mine they’re always polite and friendly and make me feel really welcome. What’s the worst that can happen?

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