I live overseas. Currently, I am pregnant with DC2 and DC1 is two years old. I don't see my parents very often due to distance, cost of travel etc. They are retired and often bored. I suffer from NVP (not quite hyperemesis) and have had to take medication throughout both pregnancies. In autumn, I told my parents that I would not be able to make the trip (10hr+ with at least one stop over). Esp. not with toddler, buggy, car seat, and all the other items. I cited that as main reason that flying would be terrible for me. Here is the problem: I had to go on business travel in early Jan. I did not inform my parents, but casually mentioned to DB. Now they are mad at me for not visiting while I can do business travel. But business travel is easy: short flight, no toddler, only carry-on, stay in hotel, go to bed early, eat whatever I want. The flight was still horrible and I vomited once. But not the same thing as vomiting while keeping DC1 happy. This was the last business trip until I take leave from work. AIBU for not wanting to visit, but still doing business travel?