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To ask for the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?

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MissSBluebell · 27/01/2019 18:02

Feeling emotional over some help I’ve received from an “acquaintance” - Not even a friend. Someone has gone out of their way to help and advise me, when they gain nothing for doing it.

It’s made me want to step up and be kinder.

What’s the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?

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AllSuits · 27/01/2019 19:22

ParkheadParadise Flowers I'm so sorry for your loss. What an amazing guy to do those things, he must have felt very much affected ❤️

RedHatsDoNotSuitMe · 27/01/2019 19:24

Some of these are so lovely.

Mine is was out walking on a very hot summer's day wearing shorts and a cut-off t-shirt (and proper walking boots, not completely useless!) and the path took us through a field totally overgrown with nettles and thistles. My BF said "stick close to me, and I'll trample them down as we go". But I hesitated, and he didn't notice until he got to the end.
He came back for me.

I did marry him.

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MissSBluebell · 27/01/2019 19:24

Wow...

These stories are amazing. MNetters are so quick to be judgemental or share nasty comments, I just wanted a positive thread to warm people’s hearts before they go into a new week.

Share the love, guys FlowersStarHalo

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Intohellbutstayingstrong · 27/01/2019 19:26

A close friend of mine sat with me the night my DD was diagnosed with leukaemia. He was really ill and had to work the next day but he held me and hugged me and bought me coffee after coffee through the night in the hospital concourse before leaving at 5am to go home and go to work. I will never forget it.l

AppleDump · 27/01/2019 19:26

A selfless man saved my life by donating his organ to me when he lost his own life.

I think about him and his family everyday. My hero x

holasoydora · 27/01/2019 19:28

Bit gruesome but a deer jumped from nowhere in front of my car last winter and a woman stopped her car and walked past the dying deer to my car to make sure I was OK. She called the RSPCA and waited with me.

Then, a man in a truck appeared and helped us move the deer up a steep ridge so it wouldn’t be dangerous to other drivers.

They could have just driven by like many other cars, it was so kind of them.

Theactualop · 27/01/2019 19:31

I always had severe difficulties with my mental health. When DD was born I developed PND on top of it and it pushed me over the edge. I was suicidal and attempted a few times (all good now) . My MIL sat beside my bed after my own DM disowned me and told me she will always love and support me like her own child. She took in DD3mos while I was in a psychiatric unit 100miles away for over a month and DH had to work full time to keep our home and visit me/authorise my treatment. I'm forever thankful for everything she has done for me and my little family.

JigsawGirl11 · 27/01/2019 19:35

A boyfriends mum took me in aged 16, if been hesdbutted and had broken nose from my father.

They had a 'proper' family, lively house some arguments but actually loved and cared for each other. It was so odd and unusual to me but she wouldn't hear of me going to live in a hostel, I'd previously had issues with depression, suicide and self harminv. We broke up 2 yrs later and I bet she doesn't think of it at all now but I remember her fondly very often and fully credit her with saving my life

DustyMcDustbuster · 27/01/2019 19:37

@ParkheadParadise I am so sorry to hear that your DD was murdered. I cannot begin to imagine. What a beautiful soul that man is. Sending you hugs Flowers

I had been ill for a while & was rushed into hospital with pneumonia & pleurisy. DS was 10 & I’m a single mum. I have NC with my family now, but back then my mum was “too busy” to help. A friend, with a tiny flat, 2 DC & a DP took my son to hers. She also came to my flat & tidied & cleaned up while I was in hospital. She didn’t drive, so walked out DC to school, then to my flat, then home. On way home after school she brought my son in to the hospital to visit every day. I was floored by her selflessness & help. Some people are just so incredible. Others (my family & other friends), not so much.

Hastags · 27/01/2019 19:40

One day in work I was so overhelmed and went to the loo and just burst into tears due to pressure and frustration. An Indian lady who didn’t speak great English just stood beside me, smiled, gave me some tissues and went and got me a glass of water. It just made me feel so much better, she just stood there and made sure I was ok, I thought she had left but came back with water. I remember the kindness in her eyes and she didn’t even ask what was wrong. I was crying so much I couldn’t even explain anyway. I remember thinking here is another woman who is saying come on girl we can do this

FrenchyQ · 27/01/2019 19:41

I was a single parent when my daughter was born, a close friend gifted me his car (he had bought himself a new one), i loved that car, it served me well for a good few years.

Bluelady · 27/01/2019 19:41

There's really are some amazing people in this world. @theactualop, how brilliant and refreshing to read such a lovely MiL story.

cheesenpickles · 27/01/2019 19:41

Dh (though was fiancé then) secretly saved up £6k so I could have cosmetic dentistry done. I always wanted it but knew I could never afford it on my salary in time for our wedding. He's a good one.

confusedandemployed · 27/01/2019 19:42

I was living with my DP away from home. He died after a short illness and it was looking like I'd have to go home, against my wishes. Some dear friends had a whip round and raised several hundred quid, which enabled me to stay put, get myself together and find a job. I ended up staying for another 5 years or so until work took me away.
I've lost touch with the main person who did it, but I will never ever forget what a wonderful thing she did for me.

IchWill · 27/01/2019 19:47

@AppleDump That's beautiful.

Sunnysidegold · 27/01/2019 19:59

I met a friend of lost touch with in a supermarket when I was off work with depression. I looked awful and obviously wasn't at work and she was telling me she was ill too. Just hearing someone else got the whole mother guilt thing was brilliant but she turned up a couple of hours later with a shepherds pie for me and the family. It was so kind and thoughtful and meant a lot to me

comeonbaby · 27/01/2019 20:05

I use to work in a hair salon and we had this little old dear who loved close by...if it rained we would collect her and take her home as we're concerned for her...
When she passed away she left me £250 in her will ❤️ to say thank you which was so unexpected and so kind of her

pearpickingporky84 · 27/01/2019 20:13

Last year we were having a terrible time with DS’s behaviour in school (it’s improved now thank goodness although we’re still waiting for Ed Psych assessment). One particular week had been awful and his teacher had had to speak to me several times about various things he’d done, I was completely worn down and gutted about it all. His teacher text me from home on the Friday evening to let me know he’d had a better day, his childminder had picked him up that day and she wanted to tell me something positive before the weekend!

DrCoconut · 27/01/2019 20:14

It's small in the big scheme but I moved into a house with DS1 then 2 years old. I'd not long separated from his dad. I attempted to do Avon to make a bit of money for Christmas. The old man down the road got talking when I went to pick up the book. He ordered quite a lot of gift sets which was a great help, but just before Christmas he came round with a little book, immaculately wrapped and a big traditional orange to give to DS. He needn't have and I've never forgotten his kindness at a less than great time in my life. He has since passed away and his ashes were buried a couple of places down from my great grandparents so I say hello to him when I go to see them.

MynameisJune · 27/01/2019 20:20

At 17 I was in the throes of a relationship that turned violent. The last time is saw said dickhead he punched me in the solar plexus (he was a boxer) and chucked me out of his house sobbing my heart out and barely able to breathe. I stumbled to the bus stop and 2 girls, no older than me got on the wrong bus with me. Calmed me down and made sure I got home. I don’t even know their names but I’ve never forgotten them helping me at a time when it felt like everything was falling apart.

ILoveCrunchyAutumnLeaves · 27/01/2019 20:32

I have 2 - one was I was a civil servant & my boss tried to use me as a scapegoat for something illegal she had instructed me to do, which I was unaware of. There was a disciplinary investigation and at the last minute a witness came forward who had witnessed my boss instructing me and doing the same herself numerous times. Her statement saved me.

Took my childhood abuser to court, his defence was that we were conspiring against him, last minute my half brother's mother whom I'd never met, and had more than enough deserved reasons to hate my mother, came forward as a witness. I'll never forget her courage to face someone who ruined her entire life.

I also had a breast cancer scare whilst waiting for the trial and was barely hanging on mentally, I was having a right pity party in my head, waiting at the clinic for the results a beautiful woman walked out with a bald head and gaunt look. I sat there and something just clicked in my head that if she can face what she's going through everyday & smile at the face of death and choose to fight then so can I. I used that memory every time I felt like giving up and whilst on the stand.

CallMeSirShotsFired · 27/01/2019 20:32

I had had my heart broken and I had gone to a gym class to try and wear myself out so I didn't have to think. The plan didn't work and I was doing an exercise with tears silently streaming down my face.

The instructor (knew the background) saw this. She quietly came past and squeezed my shoulder as she did. Just that simple gesture made me feel less alone at a time when I was utterly wretched.

Tamalpais · 27/01/2019 20:33

When I was 21, my mother died very unexpectedly and I witnessed it.

A family friend stepped up in such a big way, I'll never forget it. Every Friday she took me out for a walk with our dogs and something to eat afterward. For years, every Friday, even after I was back on my feet after my mother's death. It meant and still means so much to me, her spending that time with me. We're thousands of miles apart now but still in contact :)

WaroftheWorlds · 27/01/2019 20:52

My DH had an affair with a school mum. I confronted her friend and her away from the school, but gossip spreads, and I knew it would.

The next time I had to do the school run I was a wreck. I hadn't formed any friendships with any of the other mums. It was horrible knowing that they were gossiping about me, DH and the OW.

I walked in, holding it together for my DS, and his shoe came off. It was beginning to rain... I led DS to a sheltered bit to put his shoe on, at the same time feeling so wretched, tearful and stared at.

Another mum came up whilst I was kneeling to put DSs shoe back on. We had not really spoken before. She said to me:

'I am not going to pretend no one is talking about you. But I won't ignore that you must feel so alone and terrible. Stay with me, don't feel alone. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Your DH has been a dick and OW is a fucking awful bitch, but you hold your head up now".

It was just the right thing to say. It helped in a way I could never have predicted. She looked out for me after that. I was sad when she moved away. It was bold and kind and so incredibly thoughtful. It made the school run and seeing the OW so frequently so much more manageable.

OhDearBeer · 27/01/2019 21:02

parkhurst I'm so sorry.