To think mentioning your weight a lot is boasting?

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To set the scene, I'm very overweight so maybe over sensitive to this, but I'm trying to lose weight and get fitter. Am eating healthier and walking everyday to do 8000 steps at least and 10000 on average. I'm 5ft 7 and am 17 stone.

I would never ever tell anyone in real life my weight.

There is a woman at my work who is very slim. She takes every opportunity I think but maybe I'm paranoid to say that she weighs 8 stone. Says it almost daily. When she mentions her weight, the only other person who joins in is another very slim colleague who also says her weight. The two then sit and look at the rest of us, almost waiting for us to reveal our weight. No one does. I'm easily the heaviest but others are all varying from I'd guess normal BMI to overweight.

AIBU to feel peeved at them? Is this stealth boasting? Or am I a sensitive snowflake on this. Would you happily say how much you weigh to others?

What matilda said

It may just be that she has a very unhealthy attitude to appearances and is obsessed with keeping slim

Only read OP

She sounds insecure

It's her problem

Ignore

I like the idea of her saying her weight then her mate and looking at everyone else expectantly, and everyone else just sits there and stares at them keep up the good work.

Height is just a fact for most people, but I can't remember the last time I told anyone how long I am.

" It's around stuff like this, or if we have biscuits at coffee break "

Sorry just read this one

She is justifying to herself that she is "allowed" a biscuit, when everyone knows that fruit is better for you

I had a woman at work when I was young who was obsessed with what I ate, she was obviosuly very very caught up in appearances. She was always pushing biscuits at breaktimes and took it quite personally that I always said no (I didn't used to snack just didn't fancy it not a sweet tooth). We had a good canteen and I used to live alone so would take advantage of the subsidised lush food and get somethng like a massive roast dinner, every day without fail she would say "Will you be eating again tonight????".

It's her problem. Sersiouly.

Not only do they sound like they’re boasting (at least I would assume they are) but they sound like the most boring people on the planet. It’s like people that go on and on every time you see them about their diet and how much weight they’ve lost even when it’s a minuscule amount. Bore off.

Next time just say " really? I wouldn't never have thought that". She will either take it as you meaning that you would have thought she was heavier or realise that she says it every ridding day. Either way might shut her up.

Btw OP I meant to say you sound like you’re doing amazingly well and I wish I could give myself a kick up the arse to do more about my own weight.

You would hate my team OP! We all know eachother dress sizes because we give eachother clothes when they don’t fit us. So for ex I know that if something is to big for be it will fit Sarah, or if something is too small for Anna then the only one smaller is Ellie. I quite like it!

I used to work with a man and every third sentence out of his mouth began with 'My wife Judith said...' grin

I was mortified to learn that when we were first together DH was apparently saying 'My girlfriend Lisa says...' so often at work that it was a running joke. We've been together ages now, so he's very much got over the novelty!

It is so typical of the MN sanctimonious about food 'oh we've all lost sight of what normal is, normal is weighing three stone and eating two apples a day' brigade that anyone is even trying to defend your colleague - she sounds awful, and is very clearly bragging!

You would hate my team OP! We all know eachother dress sizes because we give eachother clothes when they don’t fit us.

Right, you know them - but presumably you don't tell each other them daily?! So it's not like OP's colleague at all. If she had told everyone once that she weighed 8 stone, fair enough. It's doing it so often that's really weird and obnoxious

I’d ask if they were ok with their weight, because they bring it up so often, you wondered if they were struggling with their relationship with food. In front of everyone Please don't do this. She may have an eating disorder or something and it would just make you look incredibly nasty.

I don't know if she's boasting, she may be. She may just be stating facts. Or she may have a difficult relationship with food. I'd ignore it and not engage in any conversations of that kind.

Try this:

Really? You look like you weigh considerably more than that. Are you sure your scales are correct?

Don’t Know if you have ever watched early episodes of Mrs browns boys when she said she was bought elecution lessons but instead of saying fuck off she says that’s nice! I do that a lot now, so they think I am being nice and I know what I mean! Just try it, it works

Don't mind her OP. I would say yes we know, you told us lots of times.
She is an idiot. I have never had any need to disclose my weight in work.
In a previous job, there was around 6 lady's it was a constant hot topic of conversation, they were slim and medium sized but it never changed, boring and judgy. I used to yawn loudly or eat at my desk.

I’ve worked lots of places where people would bore on about diets and slimming world and syns and stuff. I even worked one place where a few of had a little diet club going where we compared weight loss week on week and made a little competition out of it. But never anywhere where people repeatedly announce their weight. It’s weird. It’d be like repeatedly announcing that I’m 5 foot 4 or that I have green eyes, and then looking at you expectantly.

I work with someone like this. She's a perfectly nice person but is obsessed with "good" and "bad" foods.

She will survey the canteen menu each day and decide what is good and what is bad. She always uses those words.

If someone mentions what they had for dinner / got a takeaway last night she will declare that she doesn't eat processed food.
But then in the course of normal conversation she will say she had a lazy Sunday morning and had a cooked breakfast / got a McDonald's for lunch / cooked a ham for dinner.

She exercises a lot and will make a great fuss of leaving work for the gym and complaining about how organised she needs to be in the morning in order to have her gym bag ready.

I used to think it was a stealth boast because she is quite petite but I've begun to feel sorry for her. I really think she thinks that we care what she eats, whether she exercises or not, and she is trying to justify herself. She will come back from holiday and if someone asks her if she had a nice time, her first comment will be about the food, e.g. "practically all the restaurants were seafood ones but you know me, I adore fresh fish".

It could be insecurity, it could be boasting. You do what makes you happy and ignore.

I don't have food issues and wouldn't bang on about my weight every day at work: odd and boring thing to do. I don't even know how much I weigh (I've always been within the healthy range on the lower side).

It always seems rather sad to me that women set up hierarchies in their heads based on weight. There's no meaningful merit attached to being the slimmest in the room.

The only circumstance I can think of in which it would be useful to discuss weight to determine a ranking system from lightest to heaviest would be if the office colleagues were intending to put on a human pyramid display.

Otherwise, there are plenty of other more interesting topics of conversation to have over a cup of tea!

There's no meaningful merit attached to being the slimmest in the room.

Sadly quite a lot of people think there is, both men and women.

hobbes
I've also worked in many places where diet chat was the norm (by women of all sizes).

Whilst that sort of chat bored me to tears (especially as a slight athletic person who manages to not go on about my diet and fitness every 5 seconds but had to tolerate endless 'oh you're so lucky' comments and avoid saying 'actually Susan I'm not lucky I just choose to eat healthy, avoid diet fads and not be sedentary'), it always struck me as a conversation nobody in that group could win. I'm sure some probably left thinking someone was bragging about their weight loss and someone else would congratulate someone else on not having work biscuits for a week and then there's be pats on the back for walking 30 mins.

Unless you're friends who know each other well, diet and fitness chat seems to be a great small talk topic with endless potentials for offence to be taken.

I had a colleague like that. Loved to bleat exactly how thin she was and "you mean you're eating the WHOLE pot of soup??!" Etc. I don't get bothered that easily but only realised later how much of a bitch she was.

My DM does this. She has huge issues around weight and eating and gas always been very slim. I favour my DFs side of the family and struggle.

My DM is always saying that she knows what it is like to be me, as once she got up to 9st and she was OBESE, and struggled to find anything that fit in any shop

I am a big girl. Despite working out 5 days a week and watching everything I eat, I will never be 9st. I haven't been 9 st since I was 13 years old.

My DM talks about her weight, size and diet constantly. My Dsis is going the same way. It is sad, both of them cannot believe that you could ever be happy unless you are as small as you can get. It has become almost competitive.

Is just take the piss

Your scales broken
What's the doctor recommended
Really????!

Etc

Is = I'd