To think I should give up?

[Limpshade]

I'm having a clearout at home as we've recently downsized and my second DC is also growing out of her small baby things. I've recycled 90% of the clothes, shoes and books I'm getting rid of so I'm only donating the "best" stuff. I'm not interested in making any money from the baby items - bouncer, toys, unused bits and pieces, etc - so I've advertised them all on a local Facebook group for new parents wanting second-hand stuff for free.

The amount of bollocks I've had to put up with this week from some of these parents is astounding. Despite me clearly stating exactly where each one is to be collected from, in the case of one item I've had five different people all saying they want it and then getting affronted when I say where they've got to come to. One actually wrote, "Seeing as you are supposed to be helping me it's really off that you won't deliver it". One item was smaller than the rest and the mum said she couldn't get to me so I did offer to post it, to be met with "OK but I'm not paying for you to send it. You should pay for that OK."

I honestly didn't expect to be thanked (I'm getting this stuff, albeit nice stuff, out of my house too so it's mutually beneficial) but I didn't expect to be shat on about it by total strangers. Now I'm thinking it would just be easier to throw everything in a bin liner and send it to landfill.

OK I am being VU about that, I know. Some ideas please, wise Mumsnetters!

That’s awful. If I were you I’d clearly state your not an officially charity your doing this out of the goodness of your heart and if they are not interested bugger off!!!

There are some entitled feckers about.

Yep, I can't bring myself to bin good stuff, but offering stuff for free seems to bring out all the cheeky fuckers.

They either want it or they don't. Don't get into discussions with them, just say take it or leave it.

Landfill? Just give it all to charity, I'm sure they'd love it.

Go check out the Choosing Beggars sub on reddit. It's full of that shit.

Some of it involves people not liking what is being offered so telling the donators to buy them new stuff. Also wanting things delivered 3 hours away.

Find out where you can donate to woman's refuge or a baby group that would be more helpful x

Take it down.to ther local charity shop. They'd be delighted with good quality stuff.

Charity shops. Books to schools etc. Women's refuge. Health Visitor.

I've given up with FB for off loading stuff. Way too many cf'ers even to the point of pming me - hey hun do you still have X item? I could really do with it and it's still probably taking space so can u post it to me for free?
I replied back - haha, the item was sold for the full asking price same day. The stuff I was giving away I listed for free and for people to collect. Why would I want to be out of pocket posting stuff?
Was called a stuck up cunt.

Cheeky fuckers.

Definitely offer it all to the women’s refuge or another organisation instead.

Where do people like this come from! How did they learn to be so off?? Frightening!

There are a lot of them about these days.

Frightening.

Facebook selling sites bring out the absolute worst in people!

I was selling a phone for about £180 (I forget the exact price now). A young guy offered me £45 as I "won't get more than £100 for it anyway".

What kind of logic is that?!

I sold it for full price because I'm not an idiot.

Who are these entitled cheeky fucking wankers? Just charity the lot or donate to your local women's refuge.

People are chancing arseholes generally!

I generally just give everything to charity. Only thing I’d actually faff with selling is my designer stuff.

I was giving away free solid oak good as new sideboard, dining table set. Needed to make space for duplicate newer furniture.

Helped the couple lift the stuff into their car. They commented ‘what’s wrong with it now?’ When one of the drawer wasn’t closing completely, due to slight 3xpansion in the cold and damp of the garage.

Not a thanks . Nothing. As if it was them doing me the favour.

Yes, straight to landfill sounds like the option with less aggro.

Oh dear lord stay off Facebook marketplace it’s full of absolute craphounds... if the stuff is nice and you don’t want to make any money do donate it to charity, some places will even collect if it’s too much to transport

Please don't give up. There are a lot on entitled people, but there are so many people, myself included who have received so many lovely things for free from Facebook/Gumtree.

Just refuse to deal with the chancers. My mum was selling a single side table and people called to ask if she had it in different colours! People sometimes are so removed from reality.

So many people find the financial stress of having a new baby to be overwhelming and the offer of free goods can be a life line.

I know once my kids are old enough I will be giving away what I can.

I sold a really nice Christmas Tree last year, I actually put it on for £5 as token amount, helps weed out some of the chancers.

Just give it to charity, your stuff will be appreciated there.

I know what you mean though, OP. I once tried to give away a hamster cage for free on Facebook and I was asked to deliver to an address about 5 miles away. Woman said she didn't drive etc, so I said nor did I and if she is wanted it, she would have to find somebody to collect. Heard nothing nor from her.

I did once give away a cot on Freecycle. The couple who collected were very grateful.

I gave away a TV on Facebay a few weeks ago. The lady was lovely, polite messages, turned up on time, thanked me and told me it was for her son who wanted one for Xmas but she hadn't been able to afford it, that brought a lump to my throat.
There are nice people out there, just ignore the idiots.😀

Sigh. You're right, I should just donate it to a charity shop.

I've never put anything on Facebook to sell or give away before so this has been a bit of an eye-opener for me. I am at some of your stories. Particularly the PP's mum who got asked if her item could be donated in a different colour!

Free stuff will always bring out the CFs.
Maybe find a local women & child refuge & see if they can make use of it instead. You'll know for certain that way that I'll be gratefully accepted & going to good use.

I'm an admin of my local FB buying/selling group for baby items (about 10k people in the group) so no one dares take the piss or they will face the ban hammer.

That's my only advice; join a group with some strict rules - it can seem like a pain sometimes, but at least people don't chance it as much in my experience.

I recently sold a few child items and the amount of stress it caused me just wasn’t worth it. I decided that the remaining items that were very nice would be given away and the rest taken to the donation bin. The amount of chaos and flaky behavior from people getting free things for their babies and children completely turned me off continuing. The rest is getting donated or if it can’t be donated it is going to the landfill.

I quite often give things away on Freecycle. Most people are really nice and I've never had any CFs. You get a bunch of emails and you can choose to give stuff to someone who is polite and ignore the rest.