To feel like him being out all day is crappy?

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So I'm genuinely prepared for a virtual slap and to be told to get over it.

But I'm feeling a bit put out because DH has recently started a new job and has gone out for a colleagues birthday to an area that is fairly far from where we live in terms of regular transport and taxis etc.

He went to work this morning for a short day and finished at 2pm. They all went out straight after work and are still out now with no inkling of when he is coming home.
When he mentioned going out straight from work I reminding him we have commitments tomorrow morning and asked him not to drink a lot and be home fairly early so he wasn't hungover for these commitments.

Now am I being precious or would you be pissed off too that he's been out on the drink for 8 hours with no sign of coming home and almost certainly will be hungover in the morning?

It's a new job, he has to try and make his mark. Let it go.

Are you sure he hasn't another woman?

Are you sure he hasn't another woman?

NICE.

OP ignore that & if you're used to DH being with you then I understand feeling a bit narked!

Take the time to do something you fancy. Have a long bath. Read a book. Meet a friend - enjoy you time!

Honestly unless this is a weekly occurrence then yes you are being totally unreasonable. I’d hit the roof if my husband tried to give me a curfew or dictate to me what I could and could do.
What were the commitments today? Was he hungover?

What time did he rock up and what state was he in?

He came home at 11 o'clock but when I mentioned that I thought it was a bit much that he had been out on the drink since finishing work we ended up having a row. This morning he was apologetic and we did manage to make our commitments but I think he felt bad for being out all day and night and I felt a bit bad for being so sensitive about it.

He doesn't have form for this but he always gets drunker than he says he will and almost always has a stinking hangover the following day which is why I think I resent him going out a bit. He throws a huge pity party and I generally feel like he's put a downer on our weekend.

Like I said happy to have both side of the views expressed by you all. Maybe I was BU, maybe I wasn't but I felt better for venting my thoughts.

I think working during the day then going out for a drink is perfectly reasonable. Unless there's a reason you needed him back in the evening, it seems like a perfectly normal thing for him to have done.

That's a bit of a session in my mind with people you don't O ow that well. I would hope there aren't too many repeats of it.

What were the commitments though? If it was a funeral, for example, he probably was being unreasonable

I would be highly annoyed if my DH tried to lay down the law on what I could/couldn't do, and for how long I could/couldn't do it for. I'm not a child. When my DH goes out it's completely open ended as to when he gets in, it can be 9pm or 3am. If he's hungover the next morning and we have commitments then that's his choice and he knows better than to dare moan he feels rough

@theharlotletter I get your point of view, it's just not really how me and my DH do things, we regularly input on things each other are doing and timings and how it will affect plans etc. If I've over committed myself for example he'll say so and I'll reduce things.

I just felt like he was being OTT by being out of the house since 8am on a Saturday since it's always family time. Commitments were to help out with something that we had agreed to do in a rota basis with an event weeks ago. We do it fairly regularly and it's an early morning.

It's not helped at all by the fact that I'm a bit hormonal and emotional as I'm pregnant with baby number 3 and exhausted so would have appreciated having him around.

I was definitely behaving sensitively.