To feel like taking a stand because my DH constantly says...

[happygrumpysleepy]

I’m soooooo tired.

We have two DDs. The younger one is 6 months and doesn’t sleep particularly well.

My DH works full time so he has taken to sleeping on the couch downstairs to get a full night’s sleep and I deal with DD (3yo dd sleeps all night thank god)

He does get a full night’s sleep but still goes on and on and on about being tired. He slept from 10:30 til 07:30 the other night and I’d been up and down umpteen times and he was still moaning about being tired.

I’m starting to resent him. Im bloody tired but I don’t keep going on about it

In fact, while writing this thread he’s just said to me “you know I’m shattered”

I’m ready to launch the remote at him.

If he’s sleeping on the sofa every night he won’t be sleeping properly. Could he put the sofa cushions on the floor? He really needs to be able to stretch out.

I do get that him keep repeating “I’m tired” would be annoying but could you just reply “I know the feeling/yes I am too/ etc?”

huffing and puffing and I end up just going up to give everyone an easy life

That would be everyone except yourself ... try ignoring the huffing and puffing and give yourself a break.

he does get down time!he just chooses to booze so feels worse for it.
If he's complaining of being tired because he's hung over YANBU

We do this whose more tired dance. No one ever wins the competition.

My OH would say 'Didn't she sleep well!!', er, No she didn't.

I don’t get any quality sleep, so I’m always bloody tired. I do TRY not to keep on about it though because there’s nothing anyone can do and it doesn’t help anyone.

Tell him you appreciate he’s tired, you are too, but banging on about it doesnt help.

Mind you, given he’s sleeping on the couch, maybe he was hoping you’d take the hint and bugger of up to bed 😁

They’re not even allowed to think they’re tired?
This had me in stitches.

Well I would lose my shit. Properly shouting.

IF he was sharing the night wakings then fair enough. If he was ill or in pain then fair enough But he isnt. He spends his off time getting pissed, he isnt tired, he is hungover.

I would insist on a job swap one weekend. You spend the day working, so housework, and he does the full 48 hours in charge of the kids. When you clock off at 5 you go out and dont come back until the early hours (even if that means kipping at a friends for a few hours, not actually getting hammered). And THEN talk about being tired.

Someone needs a wakeup call about what being a parent actually means, and it aint you.

He cant be getting quality sleep on the couch. Do you have another bed, maybe even get a blow up air one. Competive triedness....i remember it. You both tried hope your 6 month sleeps through soon x

Yes of course! Give him a comfier bed to sleep in when he is doing absolutely no parenting and getting pissed....that will solve it

@joannemcc

There's always one on every thread who has to put the boot in.
And on this thread you're it

Cool, wonder how he'll assault you when you wind him up?

I find it odd that those of us who have been subject to domestic abuse are a source of humour to you.

joanmcc, I really do hope that you realise the abuse you suffered was not as a result of winding him up.

Also, I hope you realise wishing such abuse on another woman is really not cool.

I have been a victim of DV and I didnt take offence at what the OP said. But then, I am not a prick.

Our sofa is really comfy.

It's no sacrifice to sleep on it, so those sympathising with the couch sleeper might have it wrong too.

Well if he's not going to the doctor he can't be that tired. Tell him to STFU.

A lot of people say they're tired...it doesn't mean that that they're about to drop down on the floor. He probably is tired, after being at work all week. He's probably got completely normal iron levels.

OP, stop getting annoyed at him. When he says it, just say it right back at him.

I have invited him back to the bed 😂😂

Sorry I don’t know another way to put it 🙈

And my sofa is really comfy too. I have slept on it a couple times when he’s done the nights and it’s pretty decent!

@joanmcc

You’ve obviously got DV issues but what I said was tongue in cheek and I think that was clear

Ok similar situation here and after dh made some unappreciative comments like "yeah yeah you dont sleep, we know now thats your thing isnt it" I have, of today, decided to visualize it for him.
Just like you, we don't sleep in the same room right now so he's probably telling himself I'm exaggerating.
This is how many times i got up at night to attend to baby and when i had to get up finally:

I showed him this in the morning, few hrs later he offered to get up early a few times a week and take baby, and do a night on the weekend. So result.

Go ahead, just show him how often you get up he'll miraculously pipe down veeeery quickly is my guess

Doesn't bode well for the future. Ask him when your downtime is, when you're supposed to sleep for more than a coule of hours.

@Onescaredmuma I feel your pain. My 16 mo is the same