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AIBU to think that my dad is being extremely aggressive

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PupsAndKittens · 26/01/2019 21:15

(this is my first ever thread, so sorry if it’s a bit unclear)

So for background I am 19 year old student and have high functioning ASD ( I understand that some people don’t agree in autistics being high functioning and that’s fine if you believe that, however I should have the right to identify as however I want. Other groups of people are not told how to identify so neither should I).

I was sitting watching TV with my F (he is not getting the “D”) and he started to do a spider hand up my back. Due to my ASD I really dislike people touching me without warning, and can freak me out big time. DF knows that I can be triggered by this, so all I did was gently slap his hand so he would hopefully stop. Then WW9 broke off.

At first, he just jokingly said “I think you have broken my Arm” ( like I say, it was his hand not arm). I apologised and explained then left the room and thought nothing of it.

I then went back into the lounge as I wanted to talk to DM as haveing some difficulty’s at college (they are trying to kick anyone with SEN/Problems out). F comes marching back in and said “if you don’t sort your behaviour out they will”. I then stepped forward and tried to explain what I had said to DM and he screamed “don’t come near me, you’ve already broken my arm you little shit”. He then started screaming how I assaulted him and how he was going to call the police and how he would love to beat me but won’t because he’s the better person blah blah... He then sent me to my room like I was a 6 year old. I am very upset about it!

I would just like to point out that I am not a violent person, I didn’t think that was really hurting him. I know in hindsight I should probably have asked first, however AIBU fo think that F has completely overreacted. I would also like to point out that my sister started deliberately repeatedly hitting me at dinner, and he didn’t do anything about that he just laughed and said that she was a bit pathetic!

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TheRealKimmySchmidt63 · 26/01/2019 21:34

Sorry to hear your father should be more understanding- speak to your Mum and hopefully all will be well tomorrow

Screamish · 26/01/2019 21:40

Ah sweetheart, your Dad sounds WAY over the top! I hope you get it all sorted out soonFlowers

Seline · 26/01/2019 21:43

I have ADHD and what we suspect is ASD and I'd have lost my shit if someone touched me up my back unexpectedly too, a lot of us have a really strong startle reflex. If he knows that and did it anyway he's being a dick. Sorry you're having to deal with this Flowers

DangermousesSidekick · 26/01/2019 21:48

Is there anything you want out of this thread other than a general agreement that he was OTT on this occasion? It certainly sounds like he was. I get the impression you don't get on well generally.

I wondered how you managed to bat his hand away if it was spider walking up your back. Also I dislike parents who call their children 'little shit' on principle.

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