Who Is bu?

[Footloose80]

I am organising a tribute band weekend away with friends. 6 of us are supposed to be going. I am giving two people a lift and the others are making their own way there.
I am then only one with young children so I had mentioned that I may have to go home early. So Sunday towards the end of the evening rather than 10am the next day as I could have problems with preschool child care.
One of my friends has said that she doesn't really want to go if this happend as this will spoil the last evening and it's not worth paying 90 quid for 2 nights accommodation and 3 nights entertainment
So aibu to think this is a little daft especially as this person was really enthusiastic when the weekend was initially discussed
For full disclosure her not attending will also mean that I have to let everyone know that the price will rise. I don't think people will be too bothered but I feel a little awkward.

As a result it just puts more pressure on me to work through the childcare issue.

Well you made a commitment by saying you would drive them. You are changing the offer, so it really should be on you to put some effort into following through with what you said you would do.

Yes I made the suggestion to book it and drive at the start when everything was rosy at home
I than had to remove my commitment to the weekend completely when dh health took a turn. for the worse.
I guess I made a new offer two weeks ago which has only been questioned when I guess the full extent of it is known.
Anyway going to book today but won't take payment till nearer the time when I know whether we are 5 or 6.
Still think it's a shame to miss out on whole weekend for this reason but everyone is different I guess. After all I am not really fancying a 3 hour drive at 11pm but would do it to keep the weekend on track if I don't sort some childcare or dhs condition doesn't improve as expected.

That's if as well though. midnite The last 3 weekends away/nights out have required me to make all the effort by driving and booking it. If I stepped down I don't think it would happen.
I don't mind doing it as we have a great time when we all meet up again but sometimes I think that perhaps some flexibility is required if you are unable to make the effort yourself.

@Footloose80 - Maybe just cancel the weekend if you have stuff going on at home?

I wouldn't book it until you have definitive numbers and the money (I can so see you being left with the payment if this friend pulls out later) with you outlining what you can do in terms of transport. You can't be responsible for your friends decision - yes it might be a shame for her to miss out but if she feels that way then she's allowed to.

@Footloose80 - Just read your second comment. Maybe your friends just aren't that fussed? - if you feel it's you always making the effort then perhaps it is? Don't resent them for it because you've chosen to organise it.

Tbf other members of the group have taken their turn in the past. Although not this friend.
The other four will definately pay. Maybe I should suggest me and the other 4 pay for the break and if she comes she can pay her share into the kitty.
Thanks for replies.

Hmm I think I would prefer a definitive answer - you might have to be strict on your timelines. 'Guys can I have a definitive by 4pm - I'll just book for those who have said yes'. Sounds strict but gives her a deadline she can't ignore.

Like PP I would send a message to the group saying unfortunately X has decided she might not want to go which would up the price to £Y - just checking everyone's OK with this.

Thank you. I have done just that . Will see what happens.

Tricky one, no one is BU.
If I'd book a day's AL for the Monday then be told we'd be back the day before I'd be pissed off, but would suck it up or travel back on the Monday independently.