Is DP being (VERY) unreasonable?

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There's some circumstances that have arised which mean I need to earn extra money/work more hours.
I work 3 full days a week while DS goes to nursery. This is hard as I don't drive so getting back and forth from work, to nurseries and home some days is difficult (the days where DP isn't able to do the nursery run!). I wouldn't like to do any more days and reduce my time with DS and pay more in childcare charges than necessary.

So, I'm looked at doing 1-2 nights of bar work a week. I said it casually in conversation to DP who was - to my surprise - not happy at all with it.
He says he just doesn't like the idea of me doing bar/club work. It came down to jealousy and about drunk men flirting with me, being out in that scene every week etc. No really solid reasons.

This is unreasonable, isn't it???

Very unreasonable.

He's being very unreasonable yes.

Tell him to do the 1-2 nights of bar work a week instead then

Easy solution then. HE finds the work to make up the extra money you need

Very unreasonable - you're not his property ffs.

What in earth is 'that scene'? He does know that women go to pubs as it's no longer 1936?

I suspect he's looking to wriggle out of being solely responsible for his child.

Thanks everyone.

What I find funny is the idea that a sober person would find a drunk one in any way attractive......

Is that what he has actually said? It couldn't be that he is just worried about you working late and getting home late? Does the place have a reputation? There may be more to this or am I looking to deep?

*too deep

Attractive...hell no. Funny? Often!

This is hard as I don't drive so getting back and forth from work, to nurseries and home some days is difficult (the days where DP isn't able to do the nursery run!)
So tell him HE needs to make time to do all the nursery runs then!
Let's see how his attitude changes when it's him that's struggling and getting stressed.

You don't need his permission to do this job OP.
If it's what you want and need to do then just go ahead and do it.
DP can look after his own child for the evening - who will probably be in bed at that time anyway so nothing to complain about.

I used to enjoy bar work in my 20's but as i've got older my feet can't take it anymore and neither can my ears
Have you looked at other options, like call centre work? Some of them are open til 10pm and others midnight.

If you don't drive how are you getting out for these night shifts? Is he perhaps worried about that aspect?

There are buses and any decent pub pays for a staff taxi home (costs can be written off via tax). It's not impossible.

That’s really good of your DH to say he will make up the short fall in money as he doesn’t like the idea of you working extra at night.

Obviously I’m sure that’s what he meant! If not then he’s an unreasonable dickhead.