To want to go home?

[sarahhuteere]

I didn't want to go out tonight but my friend has been having a crappy time so I agreed to a "few" drinks.
I said I have to be up at 7am in the morning so I want to be home for midnight.
She then says no chance about 2am is a reasonable time,I'm having a bad time,don't spoil my night.
So aibu to leave at 12? I can't face staying out till 2am!!

Just tell her you need to leave by 12, that's very reasonable for drinks, it's not like you've said 8pm.

Develop a vomiting bug. One of those 24 hour things that come and go like magic.

Alternatively, book your taxi for 11.30pm right now, and just go when it turns up. You're an adult - you choose how long you're out for. The spoiling her night stuff is emotional blackmail and she's a shitty friend for using it on you.

A £ says she'll be doing just fine once you actually arrive and you'll be left wondering quite what the crappy time was (speaking from experience of dropping everything, driving 1.5 hours to discover supposedly in-dire-emotional-straits friends was laughing away on phone to another mate!). Leave as early as you want. Get a headache around 8.30pm

I know I must seem like such a bore but the thought of dealing with tomorrow hungover and tired is just torture

Tell her to jog on. You are an adult, you don't need her permission to leave

You're in control here. It's up to you when you go home.

Go to a restaurant rather than a nightclub or bar. The waiters will probably finish service by 11pm and will be wanting to lock up and go home.

What a selfish friend! Tell her to jog on and enjoy her night without you.

Tell her

"Sorry but I won't be able to function tomorrow on 5 hours sleep. Maybe best if we rearrange for a night when I don't have to be up early the next day?"

I'm guessing she can lie in as long as she wants in the morning.

Top tip for saying 'No' nicely - focus on what you can do, not on what you can't do. So - 'Yes I'll definitely be able to come out for drinks with you and I'll be able to stay out until midnight' (big smile)
If she demurs - you just say - I'm not in a position to stay out later than that tonight unfortunately. (Big smile)

Do you have to drive tomorrow morning at 7am?
Because you should allow 12 hours after drinking a lot.
I'd honestly tell her that what she wants to do is not something you can do tonight so it's best to re-arrange for a date that you can both enjoy, have a good drink and go home at 2am.
But for you that is not possible tonight.
So it's midnight finish or re-arrange - put the ball in her court on that one.