Does anyone else mind their kids being filmed?

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I object to my kids being filmed intentionally. I don't mind people filming an event that my kids happen to be a part of but people deliberately filming my children doing things doesn't sit well with me. I especially get annoyed by people doing it without asking me. I'm not entirely sure why but I think it's to do with not wanting footage of them on social media and as they get older, not wanting them to think they can't muck about and be silly without it being immortalised forever on film.

I'm getting a few raised eyebrows from relatives for me requesting people not to video my kids when they see us. Does anyone else feel like this?

I don’t understand parents who allow their DC to go on social media including YouTube at a young age. I say this because my six year old has a friend who uploads videos to YouTube and it astonishes me, I’d never ever allow it. She will be mortified by those videos if they still exist on there when she is a teenager and for whatever reason she can’t delete them. I’ve seen the videos and they aren’t the most flattering, they’d be easily mocked in secondary school if anyone found them.

he will be mortified by those videos if they still exist on there when she is a teenager and for whatever reason she can’t delete them. I’ve seen the videos and they aren’t the most flattering, they’d be easily mocked in secondary school if anyone found them.
This is my line of thinking. I miss the days when we could live without the amateur paparazzi snapping it at every turn.

Yes, but Its only been my experience of those under 30 I would say- they think nothing of throwing your child on snap chat or instagram- everyone I know older wouldnt dream of doing so without asking first.

Are your relatives filming for themselves or always with the intent of uploading?

Are your relatives filming for themselves or always with the intent of uploading?
They all share videos of each other and their families on whatsapp so there are so many people who could download it.

It depends, I think I really wouldn't want them "performing" for the camera and it going on public social media. Something that just got sent to their extended family would be ok.

It depends on the contend doesnt it?

On the potty, in the bath, of course not. Carefree at the beach building sandcastles, paddling in a stream with a net and jar, cant see the issue

It's all the time. Child smiles, camera. Nappy change, camera. Bottle feeding, camera. Me or DH picks child up, camera. Sometimes I'd like to just be able to take care of my kids without wondering if my knickers are sticking out when I bend over!

Does my absolute head in. But I've offended people by saying so.

It's also never with my consent. I turn round and see cameras out. Without anyone asking me.

DM just had a heap of cinefilm taken off her and her siblings in the sixties and seventies digitised this isn't new, they're not uploading it I'm not sure what the issue is

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Because someone who isn't me or my husband has footage of our kids, which means we have no control of who sees it.

Nappy changing is a bit odd

Someone might SEE your child?

I don't share myself, or let others share, photos or videos of my children on social media. I think it's disrespectful to share images of people of any age without their consent, and my children are too young to consent to it.

To me it feels like an invasion of privacy and the decision whether to film the dc and whether to post it or not should be ours. I don't know why it bothers me so much though.

I agree it's up to the parents. Whether someone else thinks the parents is being overcautious is neither here or there, you don't ride roughshod over a parent's wishes.

I know its slightly different but we are filmed consgtantly every day of our lives, CCTV, das cam, bus cam, train cam, it really sint something I can get hysterical about.

Im with the poster up thread, we've also had heaps of cinefilm restored and digitised , it's lovely to look back on.

However it is your prerogative to say no.

you don't ride roughshod over a parent's wishes.

Exactly. I've caught people trying to do it when I'm not looking.

I turn round and see cameras out.

You have to be assertive with things like this. Absolutely point blank "Do not take photographs of me or DS." Second time they do it "I like spending time with you but will not continue if you insist on taking photographs of us." Third time you have to walk away.

Most people accept it on the first sentence. But you have to be prepared to actually follow through with your threat to walk away though. It took me going home for my DM to get that I wasn't joking. Its never happened since.

And don't justify yourself. You don't want photos of you or DS taken. They can like it, lump it, or not see you.

Totally with you OP. My cousin popped round for a cuppa with his new girlfriend last week and she started taking photos of DD. Er, no thanks! And I don't give a shit if I offended her when I asked her to delete them. Sadly this is becoming normal and people are not asking permission before doing so. Massively fucks me off.

Besides who wants to watch a shitty nappy being changed?

It's the assumption that it's okay to just photograph my kids without even asking me that really winds me up. Had a grandparent do it when they visited them in the NICU once. I was changing a sats probe and it was being filmed. Drives me insane.

You have to be assertive with things like this. Absolutely point blank "Do not take photographs of me or DS." Second time they do it "I like spending time with you but will not continue if you insist on taking photographs of us." Third time you have to walk away.

Sometimes I don't even know they've done it. They send me a video of DS1 that they've taken when I was in the loo or making a drink. It's like as soon as I go for 5 minutes the cameras come out.

Doesnt bother me in the least. Would you mind if your kids were on a local news item ir something similar? Why do you want to control who sees your kid singing in a carol concert or something. Not sure anyone wants to.

If it's something like a play then no because there's multiple kids there and it's a specific event. Filming them just existing in their own home or at the park feels really intrusive?