Argh!!!

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My husband and I have been on a strict diet since newyear. 2 weeks to go, according to our plan. We worked hard at it, lost good amount of weight, but still need the last to weeks to meet our gold. Then off for 2 weeks sunny holiday.
(That is why the diet suddenly was so motivating!)

Today our 15 year old son is coming home from school, where he lives. In English it must be a bording school. He has ADHD and school cant cope with him anymore. So he is coming home, in the middle of a school year. And even though I miss him, it will require a lot - A LOT - of work for me, to find new school, get him to attend, all of the difficulties with a teenage boy with ADHD. (Talked to him on phone, he is ok, he knows we are not angry, just worried.)

And I dont need no bloody diet today! My husband called, asked if we needed any shopping, and I said - chrisps and wine! Please! Just today. I have talked with him several times today, he knows the score and he knows I am upset/sad/worried. And he said, he would prefere if we kept diet.

I know I am being unfair, but I feel like he stole my dummy. I am truly hurt, that he is not more understanding. For context I need to loose 5 kiloes to reach my gold, he needs 3. So little. He doesnt care if I loose any weight, I know it is not the issue, but when you have a plan, you have a plan..

Any wise words how not to sulk all evening?

Your son is struggling and you're bothered about a silly diet.

Give your head a shake.

Go out and buy your own

I think the diet is the least of your problems. Presumably if you can’t get your son settled pretty soon then you won’t be going on the holiday anyway.
And you don’t NEED to lose a certain amount. Unless you’re so fat you can’t fly unless you lose it.

Wise words? Grow up will cover it.

Ask yourself - will wine and crisps solve your problems?

If (as I suspect) the answer is no, then forget about them and get on with helping your son.

If the answer is yes then go and buy them, then get on with helping your son.

Hope your son is OK.

Im sorry i hope you misunderstood me. Son is happy to come home. School said he was relieved. I talked to him on phone, he is ok and looking forward of coming home. Hopefully school nearby take him, and he stay home.
And i wasnt planning on getting drunk!!! Just share a bottle this evening. But never mind. I guess i am being unfair.

This diet isn't going to work unless you find other strategies to deal with stressful situations

How are crisps & wine going to help your son?

You’ll only be pissed off with yourself in the morning (I speak from bitter experience!).

You're an adult and you're perfectly capable of getting your own wine and crisps. The fact that you are not suggests that you do want to stick to your diet but this way you can blame your husband for it.

My only advice to you is don't. You've asked him because you knew he would help you stick to the diet and you're going to blame him for it. Don't take it out on him, he is not the bad guy here. You have done this on purpose and you know you have waggles finger*

Maybe put the welfare of your son first, rather than feeling bitter that you're so stressed you want to stop dieting.

Odd.

Op enjoy your crisps and wine. We all have stressful times and need a bit of comfort food in hard times in life. I'm on a diet I've lost 3 and a half stones nothing wrong with having time off. Enjoy.

One night of treats won't hurt

I think the problem is you will have to do all the work with your son and not your partner.

Don’t waste mental energy on diet/no diet, address the unfairness in your relationship.

You're aiming to lose 5k in 2 weeks?

Does this mean you'll have to cancel your holiday?

Strange post. A son who wants to come home to be with his parents instead of being foisted off at boarding school, and a mother who is sulking because she can’t have any crisps or wine. What about a treat for your kid? Are you taking him on holiday or cancelling it?

Thank you for all the kind replies.

My son is not "foisted off" to boarding school. He was very interested in getting out on his own, to this particular school, because it has "E sport" but it has been too much for him. So the school chose to decide we found him another school. Which we will. He had a perfectly fine school in our local hood, and I hope they will have him back.

Ofcourse we wont cancel our holiday. We are all going, as planned.

The reason I say I will have to deal with this, is because I am working part time from home, so I am home, during "office hours" to call autorities.

Regarding my diet - we have been so good! Yes I loose about 2 - 2 1/2 kiloes a week- and i only need a few more. Right now they can happily stay on, I really dont care.

Son is home now, gave me a big hug, raided the kitchen and went to his room. We will talk in the morning, he is tired from an emotional day, and my brain feels like porridge, as I also had an emotionel day.

And husband bought wine :-) We are back in business in the morning, and I only want a few glasses to a movie tonight.

Again - my son is not "sent away" to boarding school. It is a school which play a lot of computer games "E sport" and ofcourse normal classes. That is why HE wanted to go. It cost a fortune, but we were happy, to see him happy. Now he is home, we will make a plan how he can finish school in the summer, in another school. I love him to the moon and back, he has no doubts of this, and we will work it out. It is not the end of the world, we will manage.

Thank you again for all your kind words - and cheers :-)

And yes - he also got chrisps and soda. As did his sister!