to expect social worker to...

[elliesm98]

To expect my child’s social worker (male, wears work boots) to offer to take his shoes off when he comes in when he knows I’ve just had carpets fitted. Or at least take them off when he goes upstairs to nose at the bedrooms

A few assumptions going on here........my dc have a sw and have done for years because of their disabilities. Loads on an kids do.

And Yes, they do check bedrooms sporadically.

But no. I wouldn't expect them to remove shoes.

No, I wouldn’t expect someone visiting my house in a professional capacity to take my shoes off.

This. It's one thing to ask a friend or family member but not a professional visiting your home.

Maybe he has a foot odour problem and would be embarrassed

Why is he nosing at your bedrooms?
He might have to make a quick exit, why would he take his boots off ?

I wouldn't expect them to take them off and there may be a policy that they don't.

They check the child's bedroom to check they have somewhere suitable to sleep. We had that and ds's is for disability not child protection.

"Why is he nosing at your bedrooms?"

A home check includes bedrooms.

When I did them as a SW, they were always tidier than mine had ever been.

The danger is that, as said, that he's more vulnerable.

You should have asked and he could do a mental risk assessment.

@troubleswillbeoutofsight

Yes you had lots of professionals visit your house whilst your child was sick.

Did you ever have a social worker visit your house and want to inspect your child’s bedroom?

What do shoes off people do with dogs

@MyFriendGoo5

Genuine question. Why were social workers involved with your child’s disability?

@villanellenovella we have a hot water tap putside with hose. Dogs feet are washed and dried before he comes in.

Provide shoe covers if it bothers you. Maybe he was not wearing socks, then you would see his fungal infection.
If the sw was a lady with sandles no socks, would you prefer bare sweaty feet or sandles left on.

Personally I would not ask No. I am serious about the shoe covers, some peole don't like removing their shoes.

*people

In some country's it's the done thing to take your shoes off when entering a home, i got so used to it living in sweden that i hate wearing shoes indoors

Our dog is showered and dried before she is allowed on the carpets. It's routine to her now she waits in the hall as we walk in.

Because both my dc are severely disabled.

We need a sw to access respite care, adequate schooling, activities, signpost towards funding and other agencies, she comes to my children's school and college meetings to make sure their needs are being met there. Things everyone else takes for granted.

We were bloody lucky to get one as well, a lot of children and adults aren't deemed 'disabled enough so go without. My youngest is turning 18 soon and will continue to have an adults with disabilities sw.

In my local authority the only way to get certain services for a disabled child is through a social worker. All disabled children are children in need and are entitled to a child in need assessment by a social worker which is the gateway to many social care services such as over night respite.

shoe covers would be a good compromise. I think it's unreasonable to expect a visiting professional to remove their shoes

If you want him to do it, ask him to do it.

My friend insists on shoes off at the door and she keeps blue shoe covers in the porch to hand to those who refuse. I’d do that.
FWIW we mostly do shoes off but my Dad has 2 artificial hips and although he’s very sprightly he really struggles with taking shoes and socks on and off, so I don’t make him.

Our SW takes them off without me asking.... generally I tell her not to worry but she insists

I often offer to take my shoes off, unless I consider it to be too risky (either faeces on floors, or the chance of needing a quick exit).
Most people say not to bother, though.

Same here SockWomble

If you don't have a sw you don't get anything.

We didn't get any respite at all until my eldest turned 12 as we were seen as 'coping'.

12 years without a break and things getting harder I finally threw my toys out of the pram and made it very clear I bloody well was not coping.

We dont get loads of respite, just 4hrs a week but she played a part in getting my ds into his current school / college which has been life-changing for him.

My old HV always did and I did when I did home visits as a teacher. I think most professionals can tell whether you are the sort that is likely to pull a knife fairly quickly.

That said, I’d never say anything. New HV doesn’t. I do find it mildly rude but I keep those thoughts to myself!

No. I would never expect any visitor to my home to remove clothing.

I’m sure he wipes his feet before coming in. Run the vacuum cleaner around after he’s left, job done.