To keep kids away from drug using ex

[BelleBoyd]

A lot of background with my kids dad but recently discovered he has been using heroin daily for months. He hasn’t seen the kids on his own for a while but has seen them most weekends and recently with me supervising.
Now I know this, a lot of his behaviour makes sense and I just feel it’s not good for them to be around him.
His brother is saying that he still has parental responsibility and I can’t stop him seeing the kids without some sort of legality put in place.

I would stop him seeing them and let him go to court for access then

no way on earth would i let my child near this situation, not even for a minute!

Yes and presumably court would only give him supervised contact in a contact centre if he’s an active drug user?
And that’s if he can get it together to get to court which I doubt.

@BelleBoyd

I thought this was going to be about cannabis (which I still wouldn't be happy with but is more "borderline" and socially acceptable)

Heroin? Not an effing chance.

You even have to ask? No way in hell.

How have you discovered this? Is it a fact? I think I'd be putting aside any other issues and trying to work with his family to get him into rehab. I wouldn't let him see them unsupervised at all. But, I wouldn't cut contact either. I would insist he was completely sober when he saw them though.

His brother told me and he had told his mum who told his brother. He has history of drug abuse and mental health problems. His family are trying to get him to agree to some sort of rehab or counselling. If he’s taking it every day then I don’t think he’s well enough to see the kids. Ive been told today by his family that the clinic they took him to has said if he sees the kids they will contact social services regarding safeguarding. So I think I have to deny access.

Im which case you should stop access. What else can you do? How awful for you all. If you keep communicating with his family, he can work to regain access by getting clean. Hope your kids are ok. Poor things, it must be so hard for them.

Stop access and make sure you have an email or something in writing from his family to confirm his drug use and you confirm in an email your reasons for not allowing contact.

Get details of the clinic - sio that if he does try to get access or uses his parental responsibility to collect from school or something - then you have the back up info to give to the police / SS