DH and I started as FWB and then somewhere along the way I realised he was the kindest man I'd ever met and we ended up in a relationship, got married, yadda yadda yadda. Sex has always been important to us, we make time for it whenever we can and it's always good. But I've noticed increasingly since we've had kids I can't switch off while we're having sex the way I used to. Is this normal?! DC are 4 and 2 but it's become really noticeable in the last few months.
For example, last night we did the deed. Without going into unnecessary depth while people are eating their breakfasts, we both enjoyed it but while it was going on random thoughts came into my head including:
- Needing to put DD's school trip money in her book bag for this morning
- Wondering whether I'd locked the back door
- An urgent email I needed to send for work that I hadn't had time to
- Whether it was normal to be thinking about these random things during sex and if I should put a thread on MN to ask [this was the point I started to worry!]
I think I'm (mostly!) being lighthearted but does anyone else have this? It was bad enough when we went through the 'was that the baby monitor kicking in?' phase but this just seems a bit mad. Clearly DH and I just need some uninterrupted time away - we've done a couple of sneaky days off at home while the DC are at school/nursery and it was WAY better on the random thoughts score! I don't think it's a mental load thing either as DH pulls his own weight pretty well all things considered (although all school admin and random letters are mine ;))