Help me please

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Hi
I am not in a great place mentally at the moment, feeling really low due to all sorts of stuff.
But, my job has kind of been my lifeline, been with the same company for pretty much 20yrs (although it has changed massively in ownership & management over that period) .
Basically, my job has been a main focus of mine forever, I worked through mat leaves, had to go back early for op reasons, etc etc. Etc.

After working my arse off for years (checking emails & taking calls on holiday, regularly working evenings & weekends, not adhering to dr advice to be signed off to start dealing with stuff), I found out that I haven't been granted a particular award, which I know I was put forward for,

I have a lot of experience & prof quals, but I've been at the same co for 20yrs so am a bit nervous, but I'm not sure what I want to do now, I could stay where I am, but knowing that I'm obviously not appreciated or valued, go elsewhere and prob earn more but more travelling and less time with DD, try to build my own business, or do something completely different & stress free..

What would you do?

Depends where you are in life. Do you have a big mortgage that needs to be paid? How old is you DD?

If you still need some stability I would stay put and either ask for a pay rise or reduce your hours - I know the two are quite different, but I'd either want some better recognition of the effort I'd put in, or I'd want a better work-life balance (& to stop being in call 24/7)

If you have more freedom I'd spend the next 6 months coming up with a plan. Start your own company and have it running in the background while you still work there & decide what you want to do. Also, if it will help, try to get on some training courses that might help you branch out.

That would be my plan anyway

W

Thank youtubs , am a single parent with DD in yr 1 - have a mortgage to help my DM, very long story, but essentially she is covering it.
I'm in my late 30's, so if m going to have a career change, now is the time to do it.
It's hard time bough.

A plan to develop a business over the next 6 months is a really good idea - I will. Save as much as I can in the meantime & start canvassing for local clients.

Glad you have the start of a plan. I remember how it feels to be completely let down by an employer when you've always gone above and beyond - it's like a betrayal and really makes you re-evaluate what you do.

Good luck!