To be pissed off about this?

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DS is 18 weeks. He is being treated for reflux and has suspected CMPA. He isn't sleeping well, he will only sleep on me and even then it's in bouts of 2 hrs. He is EBF. I'm exhausted.

Before Christmas MIL asked DH if he thought I would be up for a visit to a local theatre (ticket would be my xmas present). For some unfathomable reason DH said yes. To be fair to him it was before the suspected CMPA and DS was sleeping by himself. He also thought I would be expressing by now.the idea was that DS and DH would be at MILs while I went out with some others who also got a ticket.

Theatre is tomorrow night. DH phoned last week and said it just wouldn't be possible (we have held off in case things got better). MIL was very disappointed and keeps banging on about giving him formula. Today I have had a message from fIl asking me to phone him so they can 'reassure me' that it will be ok.

I feel like I'm being made to sound like a neurotic FTM. DS WONT settle for DH. No body can feed him. We stayed at MILs for new year (against my wishes) and it was awful. I would bloody love some baby free time and I feel like in losing my mind but unfortunately that's just life.

AIBU to feel somewhat hounded? Surely this was a daft idea?

Don't ring them. Make dh ring them if need be. They are being unreasonable. I couldn't have left my dc at that age either.

Yes dh should speak to them on your behalf. You don't need to be worrying about this on top of coping with the demands of a small baby

Both of mine UTTERLY refused bottles. I tried everything. Swines were EBF til they were 6 months old and it was an utter bind. I did go to the cinema but had feed and run then rush home as soon as the credits rolled.
Went on a work meal out and DH ended up bringing screaming child to the restaurant to be fed (only 2 hours in) and I kept him with me as it was just easier.
I don't think I could have coped with a theatre trip unless someone was walking the streets outside with the child.

Tell them you are sorry but just can't. Send DH and sell the other ticket?

This is DH’s problem to fix.

Depending on how strong your feeling I would phone him to reassure him you know it's all going to be ok because you are staying with your baby.
Remind him you are the mother who deals with him all he time and as parents you and dh have decided now isn't the time to be changing his routine.
Tell him you would love a baby free night but not to the detriment of your baby. So thanks but no thanks.

Thanks all. DH is going to phone them and explain that the needs of a 4 month trump everything else and yes, it is shit for me but that's how it is.