Feeling sad for DS aibu

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Sorry if this is long... my DS (10) has a couple of friends who love skateboarding. My DH does too so has taken DS and friends to the skatepark on a almost weekly basis for the last year or so. One of the other parents has taken them a couple of times, and the other parents haven't ever.

Last week, for the first time ever, the mum of one of the boys invited my DS skating, via my DH. Great, yes please, DS really excited to be going to skatepark today. I spoke to the mum this morning to arange and she said that her DS shouldn't have invited my DS as that wasn't the plan, she was just taking the other friend...

I was pretty taken aback but thought by DH must have got the wrong end of the stick but I've since spoken to him and it was a clear, adult to adult invitation, no room for confusion.

I'm feeling ridiculously upset by this. My DH has offered to take DS up at the same time as he's going to be completely gutted that he is no longer invited, but I'm now over thinking this wondering if there's a reason she doesn't want my DS to come.

I thought I was good friends with this mum but now doubting that and wondering what the best thing to do is.

Would it be possible for you to take your son at the same time and invite another friend or other friends of his along just to avoid any potential clique-type awkwardness?

Didn't you say 'but you arranged this with DH' ?

Did she dny having spoken to your husband?

Maybe she just wanted your husband to take your son.

It must be a breakdown in communication, surely? DH thought DS was invited but the other mum says not. She spoke to your DH didn't she? But I would agree with tiggerkid. You can't let DS be disappointed.

I didn't realise she had definitely arranged it with my DH when I saw her this morning. I knew there was a plan to go to the skatepark and had assumed it was her that invited DS but when she mentioned that her DS had done the inviting, I believed her. It was only when I spoke to DH afterwards that I realised. The invitation was definitely that she was going to take them.

You need to ask her why she told you it was a confusion between the kids when she had actually spoken to your DH. Otherwise you’ll just keep worrying.

I'd send her a confused message 'hey, just spoken to dh and he said you invited ds via him? Have we got the wrong end of the stick or something? ☺️ Anyway dh will take ds along so they will see you there!'

Good plan to invite another friend.

how come the mum who has never invited, but accepts a weekly invitation from your DH for her DS, thinks it's acceptable to exclude your DS on the one occasion she does it?

I know Valkyries! It's just so rude.

I've contemplating texting but I'm now wondering whether to do nothing for now and see how it plays out after school.

My DS arrived at school thinking he was going skateboarding. I imagine that this presumption will continue throughout the day. He walks home, so will be in the playground after school with friends when the mum picks them up. I really doubt she'll have the nerve to uninvite him to his face. If she does, then we can take him to the skatepark, potentially with another friend.

I think it’s a bit unfair to put your DS in that position. Text her and sort it out before school finishes.

Agree... terrible idea. I've just sent her a message and will go to school and intercept him in playground if needs be.