I found someones v5 wwyd?

[BigBumandMumTum]

I bought a new car, while sorting through the paperwork I found a v5 for another car and part of its service history and receipts, it turned out that she had bought a new car and sold her old one (my new one) and has mixed some paperwork up.

One of the reciepts had the ladies number on so I rang her, explained and offered to drop it to her today. She didn't know it was lost.

Dh is one of those people that doesn't do things for others and thinks I'm too soft, he says he wouldn't have gone out of his way, they can get a new one.

Wwyd?

I would return it, cannot understand why someone would not.

He wouldn't go out of his way-to the point of not even dropping something off in the same village?

I'm speechless!

That's just so far out of my comprehension!

No one wants to be made a mug of but to never do anything for anyone is surely the other extreme?

Of course we should all do little things to help strangers! What goes around comes around.

I found an immunisation certificate in a library book once. It was a guide book to India, and the person must've had their injections and would need the certificate. Luckily it had their name and address on it so I stuck it in the post. I'm always (well, twice!) finding dog tags that have come adrift too, which I return. OTOH, my DD left her purse on a train once, and it was sent to the address on her driving licence, which she was immensely grateful for.

I'd have called and told them.

I wouldn't have gone out of my way to deliver them if it was inconvenient/ too far away though . I'd have arranged to post them or for them to collect them . Though if it was near enough I'd probably also drop it off
I would be bad ignoring ot. Your DH isn't as nice as you are and lacks some empathy I'd say

We found a marriage certificate in one once!

We posted it over too. Why on earth wouldn't you!

Ugh, what a miserable place it would be if we all thought like your DH.

Of course you should send it to her. I can't understand why anyone wouldn't tbh.

I had a friend that would always alter arrangements. It would start off maybe three or four of us having a catch up in a restaurant. Friend would the proceed to invite others, albeit people we all knew, but hadn’t chosen to spend time with. She would then suggest we went somewhere else as they had a Wowcher or some such offer on. Ffs, if I had wanted to be with these others and eat at some second-rate Wowcher venue I’d have done so in the first place. I used to pull out as the dynamic had changed so much. She did it every fucking time. 🙄

Oh dear God, ignore me. I’ve got my threads confused, as well as my brain. 😄

My DS was fined £100 for not having his v5. (Random stop and check by police). He’s had the car for 18 months, taxed and insured it legitimately, he just forgot to send in the new owner’s slip and didn’t realise. Please send it to her.

It will bring you good Karma! I'm the same, my DH is the same too, he would say 'why bother" ;-))

I would do the same as you. I can't believe your DH thinks that is being too soft. It is just being a normal nice person.

I've just driven up (first outing in new car) and delivered it to her house, she wasn't in, I actually know where she works because it was on some of the paperwork

She's done me a favour, new cars had a run out and our village is on a hill, I live at the bottom and would never driven up to the top where she lives if I hadn't had to

I would do what you’ve done. My DP is just like your DH and is always moaning at me for ‘involving’ myself in ‘other people’s business’.

I just tell him to naff off

Is your DH normally that selfish? I'd worry that he equally wouldn't go out of his way for you.

Sometimes good deeds bring their own reward. Years ago, DH gave me an Easter egg that had a present in it, but when I found it it was a signet ring that clearly wasn't meant for me. I knew where he'd got it from and phoned the shop, and they were incredibly relieved because apparently it was valuable and there had been a major fuss about it. DH took it back there and they gave us a lovely vase by way of thanks. Some time later I happened to see the same vase in a shop and discovered that it was worth over £50, which was probably equivalent to at least £100 today.

I'm not a nice person, I'd send it to her.

You're a nice person BigBum (he he), let's hope your husband never loses an important document, and someone like him finds it.

Do all these DH's who would do nothing, take responsibility for every little aspect of their own lives, every day?

Or do they rely upon people they know, perhaps just family members, maybe only their DW, being kind and helpful towards them?

Do they reciprocate? Naturally or only when asked? Do they naturally instigate kindness towards their loved ones?

I'm curious about the boundaries of their insularity. Family and friends? family only? Wife and dcs only? Or self only?

I'd be asking myself a question about whether this is the DH telling you who he really is and who he really cares about - and whether that is ultimately only himself. Or, whether he has a different conception of the social contract between individual and society than you. Either is possible.

My suspicion is that a lot of people who would claim their answer is the latter and perceive themselves as masters of their own destiny, actually don't notice or appreciate the many kindnesses that enable their own lives to run smoothly, or, to put it anotehr way, that render them helplessly dependent.

I'd have returned it

Or possibly I'd have meant to have returned it but forgotten and then been cross with myself

I definitely couldn't have been mean and not returned it intentionally

If DCs were with me I'd have used it as an opportunity to teach them what we do when we find something that's not ours (try to find a name/address/phone number, if there isn't one hand it in to lost property or the police station)

I'd hope they would then know to do the same thing in future

We were in our car and once followed a girl on a bicycle, and actually saw her purse fall out of her shoulder bag. We were able to stop while I retrieved it .
It wasn't safe to overtake or stop her, so we followed her all the way until she got home, and then gave it back to her! She didn't seem all that surprised (or grateful) but we felt good, having done the right thing!

I once jumped off a bus and ran after a family of tourists who had left a bag 8that had been hanging on their buggy) on the bus. It was quite a chase as I had to get off a stop after them, but I knew where they were going (from overhearing their conversation) and found them prob about 20 min later. They hadn't even noticed the bag was missing and were astonished when I gave it to them. It didn't have anything of value in - child's scarf, nappies, wipes etc - but losing that kind of thing is so intensely annoying and why would you not help someone avoid that if it is in your power to? I think your dh sounds like a lovely specimen of humanity, tbh

Op you’re a kind normal person. Treat others how you would like to be treated. Your DH is a selfish twat. They are growing in number and making the world much less pleasant for others. Get him to change his attitude or one day he coul start treating you like he treats others