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Can you get post natal depression at night?

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PNDnight · 23/01/2019 22:00

Just that. Every night feelings of depression and anxiety start. I've had both before so I recognise the emptiness and the dream like state. However I am fine in the day and its gone by morning. What is this? It happens most nights.

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Birdsgottafly · 23/01/2019 22:09

It could be a form of anxiety.

I don't know if it's hormone related, but I've had similar, going through the Menopause.

I was given mental wind down and relaxation exercises. Mindfulness helps, as well.

Birdsgottafly · 23/01/2019 22:10

However, PND can cause insomnia. It could be the only symptom that you pick up on.

PNDnight · 23/01/2019 22:12

I can sleep, I just get an overwhelming sense of emptiness and sadness at night. Completely gone by morning and returns by 6pm.

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MereDintofPandiculation · 23/01/2019 22:17

I often get a panicky feeling at night, that something dreadful is going to happen in my life. It's always gone by morning, so I now just tell myself briskly "you'll feel fine in the morning" and that seems to help

Pleasedontdrawonyoursister · 23/01/2019 22:42

I always used to feel worse at night, especially when the babies weren’t sleeping through yet. Almost a sense of impending doom and loneliness ... I think during the day you have so many distractions that you can almost push the dark feelings to the back of your mind. I would speak to the HV or midwife. In hindsight I wish I had!

PNDnight · 23/01/2019 22:47

Please I wonder if that's what it is. That night is unstructured and it allows it to be focused on. Impending doom and loneliness sums it up completely. I feel very alone even though I'm sitting with my husband and children.

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greenflamingo · 23/01/2019 22:50

I used to get really anxious and short tempered at about that time! I am convinced it was hormonal.

PNDnight · 23/01/2019 22:51

I hate it. It's really unsettling and makes the nights really hard.

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Mossyhill · 23/01/2019 22:53

When dd was newborn I’d get this doom feeling at bed time. I think it was just not knowing what sort of night we were going to have. I also hankered after my old life a bit, where I’d get into bed and know I’d have a full night.

Historydweeb · 23/01/2019 23:23

I get this, but in the mornings.
Impending doom is the only way to describe it.
I only get it periodically and I've only had it in the last year, never before in my life

Whisky2014 · 23/01/2019 23:28

Op i have this but I'm only 8 weeks pregnant. I'm actually signed off work this month because I felt anxiety from being bullied at work. I handed in notice and start a new job in Feb. But I think the dread feeling I have stems from the feeling of going to bed before another horrible day at work.
Don't know how to fix it but i can relate. I hate it when my husband goes to sleep because I feel all alone and left to endure the night by myself. Wake up fine
Weird

Stompythedinosaur · 23/01/2019 23:50

Yes, you can have a pattern of diurnal variation in any depressive illness which means you are more symptomatic at a particular time of day or night.

It is common for anxiety thoughts to be worse at night, and having difficulty sleeping is a symptom of depression. This can lead to increased periods of time ruminating on problems, which will make your moods worse.

It might be worth getting up and doing an activity if you can't sleep, and just returning to bed when you feel sleepy again.

Booksandwine80 · 29/01/2019 20:26

I got this when my daughter was very small. A real sense of dread and doom of what the night ahead might hold.

I’d forgotten all about it until I read this thread....I think mine was anxiety related.

It was horrible and I hope it passes for you soon Flowers

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