Are you not trying for kids?

[deadliftgirl]

I am not really aiming to ask a question here but I just feel like I need to vent and where better

Are you having a salpingogram (can't spell it sorry!) Where they push a fluid they can see under xray into your cervix?

If so it's not pleasent (surprise surprise) but they will be kind to you. Anecdotal but I've heard and experienced that it can often unblock your tubes. I got pregnant first month after having one of these, and I know I'm not the only one so good luck

Hey no its something starting with l! I think a lapracopstamy (I have probably spelled that wrong). They are checking to see if I have endo and whether that may be preventing me from getting pregnant. Super nervous.

I remember someone asking me that at my neohew’s first birthday party, and not really understanding my answer of ‘yes we are.’ I felt like she was asking how often we were having sex!

It took a lot longer than 5 months for us to get pregnant. Longer than 5 years even. But my toddler daughter is now sleeping peacefully in her cot and makes all the waiting worthwhile. Good luck - I hope it happens for you soon.

Good luck!

I wish people would just not ask questions about when/if others are planning to have kids, unless the person has brought it up him/herself. It's not their business, and there are any number of reasons why it could be hurtful or embarrassing for the person they're asking. Most of the people who do this probably don't realize that they might be annoying or hurting someone by asking, though it does seem like they should know better!

@kitsandkids

Thank you for replying. I get it a lot but mostly from random people you do not see very often. Like for me today in Tesco when I bumped into an old college friend!

I have heard it can take a while, I think I am just having a moment. Thank you so much for your encouragement.

I’m genuinely not trying to be unkind, but you’re just five months in. You’re going to have to figure a way to thicken your skin a little.

Hopefully, you won’t be waiting too long but, if you are, you’ll have a lot of stuff ahead of you that you’ll have to deal with. Pace yourself.

Hey no its something starting with l! I think a lapracopstamy (I have probably spelled that wrong).

Laparoscopy, I had one a few years ago. Are you going keyhole? I was in and out the same day.

It is hugely annoying when people get nosy about it.

When I was trying for our first and undergoing fertility treatment after TTC for a year this nosy old bitch woman at our church started a rumor that I was pregnant when I wasn't and people kept coming up to me and congratulating me on being pregnant.

That put me in tears a couple of times. I just stopped going until I was actually expecting.

I think the best thing to do when you get a nosy question like that is to just ignore it. If you must say something, try "How could that possibly be any of your concern?"

Just for inspiration, I did get pregnant on the fertility drugs at age 38, had a lovely baby boy and 2 years later got knocked up the old fashioned way without even trying.

Good luck.

OP, you’ve only been trying for 5 months if I understand your post well...

I'm on month 20 now & agree 5 months isn't too long, try to keep positive. On average, a fertile couple can take up to 12 months and that's normal!

Try not to be one of those people resentful of other's happiness being pregnant - they can't help it being easier for them!

Best of luck

We tried for 7 long years and I was not eligible for NHS fertility treatment I have pcos. I honestly had accepted very sadly in my heart that we would not have children. But we have 3 now. Wishing you the very very best of luck I hope you get pregnant very soon.

It’s a stupid, tactless question to ask of anyone. But there are rather a lot of stupid tactless people about.