Act of kindness - who's BU?

[longlucie]

I really don't think I'm wrong here, but will accept it if I am!!
Laddo's school are being inspected this week. I've worked in schools during inspections (3, or maybe 4, at different schools) and I know what a horrible, nerve-wracking time it is for the staff, no matter how experienced or competent they are. So I took in some biscuits for the staffroom this morning when I dropped laddo off, as a little treat and morale booster. My husband thinks it was a ridiculous thing to do and totally unnecessary, because teaching is their profession and inspections are just part of that. Who's right?!!
If it makes a difference, it's a small primary school.

Well it wouldn't be an act of kindness, would it, if it were some sort of necessary act. The very fact that it is unnecessary is what makes it kind. If your husband doesn't want to be kind, that's his right.

I thought Laddo's was the name of the school!

What's the difference with bringing chocolates and biscuits to the staff room in December?

Your DH is being silly, there's never a wrong time to show some kindness.

I thought Laddo's was the name of the school!
I was picturing a dog!

then I read the last sentence about Primary School, so I am guessing it's either a name or a nickname but it did take me a while

Sounds like it's in the North, sons often referred to as 'm'laddo'!
I wonder if your husband is paid by the hour and doesn't realise how much above and beyond goes on for an Ofsted? OH and I actually went in over the weekend with pots of paint before an Ofsted as the Authority were at war with the Head and would do nothing!
It was a lovely gesture, ignore your OH!

I think it was nice to give them a gift, it's not a nice thing to go through for any school. No different to giving biscuits at Christmas etc. If you can afford it why not do it regularly?

One school I used to clean was in the middle of an Ofsted, Thursday and Friday. Four years worth of children were going swimming on the Friday, during the Ofsted. Thankfully I was cleaning the secretaries office when the phone rang, the message left on the machine was something about the electricity being off at the swimming pool and there might not be a lesson the following day. I rang the Secretary and she listened to the whole message and contacted the teachers to warn them. They had to plan an extra 1.5 to 2 hours lessons that night, a stress at short notice even when not having an Ofsted. Swimming was cancelled and they were thankful for the heads up, I think they would have appreciated a box of biscuits or couple of bottles of wine then.

It may be part of their job but they do a difficult job under sometimes stressful situations lacking resources. Sometimes a box of biscuits just makes the staff feel valued and maintains motivation

Yeah, there's far too much kindness in the world without you adding to the world's burden. Stop it immediately!

Mist men don’t recognise acts of kindness. A very thoughtful thing to do OP

Totally unnecessary in some regards but very thoughtful and will most definitely be appreciated. (I am feeling all chuffed because my ndn just gave me some daffs and chocs for being a "lovely neighbour". Totally unnecessary too but has made me feel very 😊😊😊😊😊)

Your dh is BU.

Kindness is something we need much much more of. Good on you

Your husband is a miserable sod. The teachers will be touched that you thought of them.

A lady at our school who listens to a bit of reading a couple of times a week bakes a cake for the staff room every week. The teachers love her!

It’s some biscuits unless you’re on the bones of your arse and those biscuits will mean no dinner at the end of the week HIBVU

Yes teachers are just doing their job. A bloody difficult job at the best of times,even without inspections. And they’re looking after the most precious thing in your life: your child! Why does he begrudge them a few biscuits? It’s a lovely thoughtful gesture that has no impact on him but will have made the teachers smile.

YABU for calling your DS "Laddo"!

This is all bizarre.
Rather obviously it's a kind thing to do. Also, a perfectly standard thing to do. I'm not sure why you would have mentioned it to your dh, I have even less idea why he would have ridiculed it, as that only shows him in a bad light, and no idea why you have to check with strangers whether a nice thing you did was a nice thing.

No, perfectly normal and lovely thing to do.

Lovely op, I'm sure they will be thankful!

Your DH is being ridiculous.
Here, give him some of these:

My dh was inspected at a moments notice in work ( pharmacy) and my db is given no notice of an inspection on his farm. Both of them feel teachers make too much of a drama about a well flagged up inspection. However as a teacher l have found them stressful even after many years and numerous successful inspections. So your biscuits would be welcome but your dh is probably thinking of the above folk who get no sympathy or biscuits!