...to attend an interview instead of planned day with DH?

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Exactly that.
We have 4 x DC and zero babysitting options.
We both work full time so booked annual leave to spend a day together.
There is a huge restructure at work that will impact massively on my work life balance so I have applied for several jobs.
I have had an invitation to attend an interview on the same day we booked annual leave.
To say DH is pissed off with me would be an understatement.
I rationalised that in this climate its hard to get an interview so I should attend and it negates the need for me to skive or book another leave day as I am already off.
The interview is at 11am so I could be free from midday if he came with me and waited for me. children are contracted to be in after school club till 5.30pm.
On another day but the same week we are attending a child free event together so another opportunity to extend our 1-2-1 time.
So, should I attempt to reschedule the interview and spend the day as planned with DH?

Of course you should go. Why does he want to limit your employment options?

Of course you should go to the interview. I find it very strange that he is against it.

Ask him if you end up unemployed if he's happy taking on the entire financial burden for a few months what you find something new.

Unless you need to prep, drop kids off, go have breakie with DH, go to interview, meet for lunch. Done.

I always thinks rescheduling an interview instantly puts an x against your name to be honest and your work life balance will be effected in your current job so it’s a no brainier really.

You go to the interview, your dh is a big boy I’m sure he’ll get over it

Go to the interview. It's rare to be able to re schedule them.
I completely understand where you're coming from on the time off, DH and I do the same. But there's no way I'd be annoyed at him in the same circumstances.

Of course you should go, but I would be disappointed in the same circumstances.

Phrasing it as wanting to limit her employment options is unhelpful in my opinion. He wanted to spend the day, as expected, with his wife. Hardly the crime of the century.

It's not "Instead of". It's "In addition to".

I mean, did you have a scheduled plan in place for your day together? Have you bought tickets for a river cruise, or a theme park, or anything else? Or was the plan to just have a lie in, maybe some sex, go for a walk somewhere, have a nice lunch and so on? Because all of that can still happen, minus the couple of hours it takes for you to get ready, drive there and do the interview.

On the other hand, is it possible for the interview to occur on another day? If a potential employer says "Are you free on Wednesday for an interview?" and the jobseeker replies "Actually I have a thing booked in on Wed, can we do it on Friday instead?" then that isn't seen as a negative consideration. Employers are aware that people have lives.

If it was a choice between EITHER have a day off OR get a new job offer then of course you would go for the new job. But it doesn't appear to be. It appears to be "Do I request to reschedule the interview, or do I miss some of my 1-2-1 time with my Husband?". If it's possible to reschedule, I'd enquire about that first, and if not possible, then go ahead with the interview and you can still have most of the day with your husband.

Interview comes first!!!

I dont get his issue? You'll still have the rest of the day together from lunch onwards.

Absolutely 100% you should go to the interview. Your DH is being a manchild.

100% go to the interview. It’s not like you’re sacking him to go shopping- it’s important and he should realise and support you. As you said, you’ll be free all afternoon anyway, it’s not the whole day.

Interview. He is being a dick.

Thank you for your replies, I echo all of your comments. DH is so annoyed with me, he's told me he, '...may as well just go to work...' I was so concerned I'd made the wrong judgement call.

I couldn't imagine my OH being anything other than happy for me.

That said, I understand the disappointment but it as you say, the interview won't take all day so he'll have you to himself after what, an hour?

I'd go to the interview.

We have 4 x DC and zero babysitting options.

Do you mean that you don't want to pay for it or do you live on a remote island without other people in the vicinity?

I can see it from both sides, if possible you should hire a babysitter at the weekend to make it uo to DH and then spend some time together.

It depends how you are handling it, I reckon. If you told him in a way that showed you were disappointed that you were having to interrupt your date day, versus you telling him in a "it's great, I'm already off work," way - I think the reaction would be different.

He's allowed to be disappointed that half of an annual leave day is revolving around a work thing. Of course you go to the interview, but try to listen as well.

I wouldn’t re-schedule the interview, there’s no need.

You have the time off, you won’t be missing time together with your husband. It’s an hour or so right, not an all day interview.

I don’t understand why he’s upset, it’s for the benefit of your family and a necessity.

You’re not cancelling your time together, you’re using some of the time scheduled to be together to attend an interview.

I’d understand his upset if you were cancelling the whole day or if you were just leaving him to meet up with friends or something. But you’re not.

I don’t get his upset. Talk to him ask him why he’s upset, this is important.

Is he one of those people who can't stand being alone?

I'd love a morning to myself.

Definitely go to the interview!