To be Feeling so sad

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So I've been offered a new job! Better development for me and really exciting role
BUT I'm sitting her sobbing! I love my current job , love my team and love the role I do but my senior management make me feel inadequate and there's no room for development . I'm seriously micro managed and it gets me down hense me applying for other jobs!! My head is spinning because I know it's too good an opportunity to miss but what if I don't love it like I do this :( just needed to offload I think!!

I'm writing on this rather than a new post - would it be bad not to accept it now because I actually feel I need to stay where I am for the time being? I feel guilty for even going to interview but I have been sad ever since I got the call!

Why do you want to stay??

And congratulations on being selected for new job even if you don't take it!

I think you might need to do a good old fashioned pros and cons list!

Is it just fear of the unknown? How long have you been in your current job for?

It's absolutely fine to turn down a job offer. Job interviews are for both parties to decide if the role is right for the person or not. But you need to be really sure as once you've turned it down you're not going to be able to change your mind.

Stop being silly! You applied for other jobs for VERY good reasons. You’ve been offered a GREAT opportunity. Things change, who knows who might leave, get made redundant, get pregnant etc. Your team won’t stay the same no matter what you do. You’d be a fool to turn down this opportunity because you like your team as it is today.

Pull those pants up and look FORWARD!

Go on. You can do it 💐

You've said it's too good an opportunity to miss. I'd say take the job and give it 6-12 months. You may find you'll be working with an equally amazing team once you get to know them.

No one likes change, but life moves on. I always used to be sad when a work colleague moved on, even if it wasn't someone I knew well. You might not get such a good chance again.

You can still see your old colleagues for lunch or drinks etc - you don’t have to feel you’re losing those connections permanently. Change can be hard, even when it might be for the best.

Thanks for the replies , barely slept!! Part of the fear is that I currently have it fairly flexible which works with having small children , not sure I'll get it in a new post . I've been in my current role under two years and I always push myself to make change because it is scary. I will send out some questions today to perspective employer so I can ensure I'm making the right decision either way!

What did you decide? Hope you're feeling a bit happier.

Hi @RedTartanLass I'm taking the new job!! I've decided i think I can really make a difference in my new role and it's great for progression. They're also offering me flexi and more money so it's a no brainer! Current role asking 8 weeks notice though so I'll have to do that first

Oh FANTASTIC news!!! Onwards and upwards!! Well done!!

Great news OP - congratulations