To think I am not posh?

[gprc]

Recently had a plumber over to fit a new tap as the old one was caput, who told me he thought I was very posh whilst I gave him a MUG of tea. This was in our tiny two bed flat that we’ve just scraped to afford, not in a very naice area.

I do have a rather posh accent but there are definitely sometimes hints of Lancashire. I work for a big firm in the city. I did go to Oxford. I do sound a bit posh, and I do write well.

I went to a local comprehensive school up North. My mum was the first in her entire family to go to an actual university. Her father was an engineer! Her family is proper salt of the earth type!

My dad did go to a boarding school. I’d say they’ve got middle class pretensions.

AIBU to think I am not posh, and indeed it is wrong to judge people purely on accent! He gave me a real look of askance when I told him, oh don’t be silly I’m working class.

Not you again

Well, you can certainly be posh and not write well, the two are unconnected, as your post shows. You can't "give a real look of askance", the expression does not exist. You can look askance at someone or have someone look askance at you/someone else.

DH's family always say I'm posh - I'm not, I just don't have a common as muck Northern drawl like they do

Oh darling but.... doesn't it matter.

I'm from the north, have always been seen as posh. Family on both sides with money, privately educated, red brick universities, major generals in the family etc. But honestly family as common as they come in their behaviour, despite the background.

Do you want to be thought of as 'posh'? I detect a bit of Hyacinth here....

I've been called posh by dint of growing up in a village somewhere near Oxford. In this town full of overspill from London and Essex I'm sure an Oxfordshire accent is posh, but I'm not. Neither am I as rough as a badger's arse though, so there is that. (I'm an emergent service worker, according to the new class system BBC quiz. I.E, I'm skint but I like culture. Do not get me started on all the articles there are about how being a Goth is a middle class pursuit!)

I am sure OP can now breathe a delighted sigh of relief that most posters have now confirmed that she is indeed considered "posh" just as she had hoped.

Nobody can claim to have any kind of class at all if they refer to other people as "common". I thought that sort of snobbishness had disappeared

I'm fascinated at what people are referring to when they say 'engineer'. I think many people are referring to a mechanic.

gprc
He gave me a real look of askance when I told him, oh don’t be silly I’m working class.

You're trying really really hard to appear posh aren't you
ha ha

Can't judge until you tell us where in Lancashire.

I don’t think you’re working class.

"It’s not as if I’ve got a double barrel surname or wear my dad’s signet ring."

Wait, are double barrel surnames perceived as posh up north? In my part of the South East they're looked at as the complete opposite!

Some people think I am posh. Most people don't think that. Thing is though, to the former group I am posh, just as to people I'd think of as posh, I am decidedly not. It's all about perception. And it doesn't really matter.

Better than being a chav.....

I would interpret this as him trying to be chatty, and a bit complimentary probably. Certainly NOT to insult you or pronounce final judgement on you like a mobile assessor for Debretts.

Funny how so many people claim that 'people think they are posh.'

I find it very hard to believe that anyone has ever actually said this... Why WOULD they?

There are quite a few people on here (including the OP) who are desperate for people to validate them and confirm they are 'posh...'

And as a pp said, only on mumsnet do people post for reassurance that they are posh/upper middle class. No WAY would you ask anyone in real life if they thought you were 'posh,' and gave them a list of all the reasons why you think you are...!

They would think you were unhinged, and would almost certainly laugh and you, and take the piss out of you behind your back!

And you would deserve it!

I find it very hard to believe that anyone has ever actually said this... Why WOULD they? confused

Ive had two people say to me 'im not posh like you'

Im certainly not posh...its all to do with accent and vocab i reckon...maybe

I find it very hard to believe that anyone has ever actually said this... Why WOULD they?

Because they thought the person they were talking to was posh?

Someone said “I’m not posh like you” when I asked whether they wanted a mug or were they to drink from their tinny.

What’s wrong with being posh?

People comment that I’m posh. I take it as a compliment!

@rufusthebewilderedreindeer when people say 'I'm not posh like you' they are taking the piss!

My DH says this when I drink my lager from a glass rather than the tin.

Or if I eat my chips with a fork instead of my fingers.

Can't believe you actually think people think you're posh because they says this. PMSL!!!

@Polarbearflavour

And no there is nothing wrong with being 'posh...'' Asking people if they think you are, and dishing out a list of things about yourself in the desperate hope they will say 'yeah you are posh' is something else. It's a bit pathetic, and shows someone is massively insecure (and definitely NOT posh!)

Puts me in mind of Georgia Toffolo who won I'm a celeb in 2017. She really really laid the 'posh' act on, and her 'posh accent' was so obviously fake.

Nice girl, but not posh, and not as high a class as she wants to be.

'There are quite a few people on here (including the OP) who are desperate for people to validate them and confirm they are 'posh...' '

Quite

3 threads In last week

Surprised this ones still up

Although I guess not harmful threads

Slightly sad....

newn

That wasnt the context in which it was said but im glad its amused you