That I have never had an orgasm?

[theonetowalkinthesun]

Okay so I know I'm not being unreasonable.
But I am looking for help!

I have never had an orgasm. Never. Never on my own or with a partner. Never with any of the wide variety of people I've had sex with, never with any of my long term partners. I've tried vibrators, dildos, vibrating dildos. Lots of foreplay, no foreplay. Vaginal, anal, oral. Everything. Help!

I enjoy sex, i enjoy oral, and I enjoy masturbating- but I just have never come!
So because I've never come before, I don't even know when I'm "close" because I don't even know what "it" feels like?

I'm assuming the block is psychological?

Does anyone have any ideas?
I have had someone tell me that taking diazepam worked for them?
Someone tell me that smoking cannabis worked for them?
Has counselling ever worked for anyone?
I've never tried any of these.
I have never had any past sexual trauma.

It makes me feel like a inexperienced teenager again!
Someone help me get my first orgasm!

Google organismic
Mediation and try it on yourself OP

Then let me know

It's a good thread to have in AIBU. Back in time I used to think I was the only person with such a problem. Sex was always OK, something I liked, etc.

While in process of recovery (in mid 40s post chemo, surgery, physio) it arose in conversation with female consultant. The end result was some book recommendations, and Hitachi Wand, and it worked for me.

It's a good question to ask OK.

Looking back, with hindsight, I just don't understand how people don't explore options earlier in life. I wish I had. You only live once (or that's the most common belief).

In summary, speak with your GP asap, and start from there.

Nearly 27 here and I have never had an orgasm either.
Got some vibrators, watched a little bit of porn, and still have good sex, but pretty sure I've never come close.
I feel overstimulated and almost painful and then I stop.
No idea what close would even feel like.