I’ve had a very complicated, intense and confusing friendship with a man for the past couple of years. We talk every day, see each other often and are very close. He called me his closest friend recently and he’s mine, although the friendship has brought me a lot of pain over the past couple of years as well.
He’s moving far away this weekend- so far we worked out we’re unlikely to see each other again for a number of years. I approach this with a whole mixed bag of emotions, all of them strong and often contradictory.
I saw him last weekend and we had vague plans to see each other again right before he goes. But I don’t want to say goodbye. I just don’t want that akward moment when you hug then have to walk away. I also don’t want to get overly emotional which is a real risk.
AIBU to not actually say goodbye? If he suggests something later in the week to say I’m unwell and to send a nice message instead?
Has anyone not said goodbye to someone and regretted it?