To wake DP up to deal with baby in the night?

[OliveFetaTomato]

We have 4 kids, 2 primary age, a toddler and a baby
I’ve done most night wakings with other kids and now DS2 (the toddler) won’t accept DP in the night, he still gets up 3/4 times a night so that’s all me
DD2 (the baby) is an amazing sleeper and only wakes in the night maybe 1 night out of every 10, on those nights I wake when I hear her and DP never does so I wake him to go and settle her - partly because I do all DS2s wakings and most of the bedtimes and partly because I don’t want her to get to the stage where she will only accept me in the night too

DP think IABU as if I’m awake anyway then I should just deal with it instead of waking him, but this would mean him never doing any night wakings as them crying never wakes him up (or he pretends not to hear)

Who is BU?

Haha sounds about right! It’s non stop & physical!
I didn’t have stress but I never sat down or stayed still. Physically exhausting. He always wants to be outside.
You can’t do everything and you shouldn’t be expected to.