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Strange thoughts in new born stage

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Idontlikecheesecake · 22/01/2019 09:18

Posting on here for traffic. When my DD was newborn and still having nightfeeds, I’d wake up in the middle of the night convinced I’d left her downstairs when in actual fact she was in her crib at the end of the bed. This happened a few times.

Just the other week, DD (22 months) cried and woke me up, I was convinced she was in bed with us and had slid down the bed. I was trying to grab anything i could find her, including DPs leg, waking him up, before I realised the crying was over the baby monitor and she was in her own room.

Does anyone else have any moments like this to share?

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Aquilla · 22/01/2019 09:36

Yes, absolutely! The one about being convinced your baby is somewhere in bed with you is very common.
The weirdest one was actually my DH after the birth of our ds:
I awoke to find him feeling to see if I was 'dry'. He was half asleep and doesn't remember any of it!
(Just reread that and it sounds dodgy! )

CraZzymuMMy · 22/01/2019 09:39

I went to the shop yesterday. Suddenly realised I had left the baby at home dropped everything legged it back burst in hysterical to find my dp feeding the little one.

TwittleBee · 22/01/2019 09:40

oh yes I used to think that all the time, e.g. I would wake up hugging my pillow in my lap instead of DS who would be asleep in the cot next to me. I even once was BFing my empty arms, DH said it was a strange sight just to see me with my boob out and cradling nothing.

I think it must be the lack of sleep mixed in the the instinct to protect and provide

TeddyIsaHe · 22/01/2019 09:40

I was hallucinating with tiredness when dd was a newborn. I used to see her face everywhere, freaked me out!

Often did the waking up in an utter panic and searching for her desperately in bed, only to realise she was in her next to me the whole time. Hideous.

RayRayBidet · 22/01/2019 10:03

I woke up thinking I had fallen asleep holding the baby and as she wasn't in my arms must have dropped her. Leaped out of bed and there she was snoozing peacefully in the Moses basket. You are definitely not alone!

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 22/01/2019 10:06

Yes I've done this with mine. I think it's probably a mixture of sleep deprivation and anxiety.

MindatWork · 22/01/2019 10:09

Yes! DD is 11 weeks old and j still do this nowConfused - half asleep, frantically scrabbling around searching the duvet, thinking id fallen asleep holding her when she’s actually in her next to me crib!

Fusioluxe · 22/01/2019 10:11

I hallucinated with tiredness. I would dream I was pumping milk, get up to put the (non existent) milk in the fridge.

pearpickingporky84 · 22/01/2019 10:11

I once woke thinking DH’s arm was DS1 and I’d fallen asleep with him in the bed, I tried lift it to put it back in the Moses basket waking poor confused DH!

Meangirls36 · 22/01/2019 10:43

The babies in the hospital all had the same mother care hat on and I got confused to which baby was mine. They need to bring back baby nurseries in hospitals. Women need some sleep.

whatacrapusername2306 · 22/01/2019 10:52

i used to believe everytime i slept, the contents of the attic above the nursery would fall through the ceiling on top of her. i have no idea where those thoughs came from. im not good where lack of sleep is concerned Wink

Stinkytoe · 22/01/2019 10:54

DH woke up and thought newborn DS who I was feeding was a huge spider. He looked at us and kind of yelped. Oddly I’m the one with a spider fear, he usually deals with them.

Your brain does funny things when it isn’t very awake.

trooth · 22/01/2019 10:55

Once woke up to my first baby crying in his Moses basket (3 months old) and panicked thinking "WTF who's baby is that?!"

sar302 · 22/01/2019 10:56

Yep! Our first night away at a hotel after the baby was born, the fire alarm went off in the middle of the night. My husband leapt out of bed shouting for the baby and looking for him. Who was at home with his grandparents. We've both also "saved" pillows from falling off the bed before, whilst half asleep.

HumphreyCobblers · 22/01/2019 10:58

I did the frantic search for a baby in the bed with all three of mine. It is a terrifying feeling.

Now they are grown, I just dream that I have forgotten to feed the cat. Every single night.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 22/01/2019 10:58

I went through a phase of about 10 days where I was convinced DD was a boy. She was about 6 weeks at the time and even if I dressed her in head to toe pink, I kept forgetting she was a girl.

TeddyIsaHe · 22/01/2019 11:00

John that has brought back some memories! I kept forgetting she was a girl and had to check. What on Earth happens to our brains when we have babies?!

kitkatsky · 22/01/2019 11:00

I'm so glad this wasn't just me!

GoodJobShesCute · 22/01/2019 11:02

@meangirls couldn't agree more! I didn't realise they didn't have them to be honest until I arrived on a postnatal ward at 2am following an emergency C-section and had my baby placed on my chest for the rest of the night. I was too frightened to sleep with her on me (obviously) and felt like I'd be a bad and unnatural mother if I asked for help. Not that I could move to reach the call button anyway!

Wordthe · 22/01/2019 11:02

These are hypnagogic hallucinations, dream activity intruding into waking Life
seeing spiders is a classic one, I'm not sure why

pinkhousesarebest · 22/01/2019 11:06

Oh man , I still do this and mine are 15 and 17. I still wake up and n terror and rush to their rooms in a panic. I don't know what I'll be like when they leave home!

Findingthingstough18 · 22/01/2019 11:07

I've been really suffering with this since moving DS (6.5 months) into his own room. I wake up multiple times a night (on top of the two night feeds he still has!) in an absolute panic that I can't hear him breathing, that he's in our bed and it's too hot, that DH is lying on him. It got so bad that I ended up sleeping on the floor of his nursery for a few nights because then it didn't happen! I'm hoping it'll pass because he's generally sleeping much better in his bigger cot, which doesn't fit into our room.

I also have this horrid recurring dream where we're at his baby swim class and I look down and realise his face has been in the water and he's drowned. I have it most nights Sad

CandleConcerto · 22/01/2019 11:08

Yes. Literally that. I used to grab at the duvet looking for them when they were in the cot.

CandleConcerto · 22/01/2019 11:10

It’s probably a hyperactive subconscience thing. It makes sense for new mothers to wake up and immediately see to a potential problem I guess.

Buddyelf · 22/01/2019 11:12

I actually still have moments like this and my DD's are 7 and 4! I will drop them both off at school and head to work and it seems to be if I've been daydreaming and I snap out of it, I'll suddenly get this sinking feeling in my stomach that I've left them at home. My mind then catches up with itself and I realise they are just at school

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