Prolapse, sex, and feeling down

[Draina]

I had a baby 3 months ago.

I have a prolapse that I'm ignoring but am going to make a docs appointment this week. I'm scared and feel down about it. I religiously did and still do pelvic floor exercises, had a very quick (precipitous) birth, and a 5lb baby so should not have a prolapse.

I feel like our sex life is awful. We haven't gone the deed yet and didn't all the way through my pregnancy. It's been nearly a year....

I haven't even told my partner about it as for some reason I'm embarrassed!!

Anyone any advice or success stories re fixing this? I don't want to be fobbed off. Pelvic floors (which I am doing properly) are not working.

Bit scared I'll never feel anything close to normal again and that my partner will be fed up before long of zero sex...

Oh love. Talk to him. Xxxxx

Oh dear OP you might feel better telling your DH so he can offer support & understanding/help (even if it's to realise how important the GP apt is).

I think you should talk to him too. The last thing you want is him thinking it's him or something he's done, that way lies misunderstandings and distance.

Try not to catastrophise - 12 weeks isn't that long and these things can often be fixed. I'm in a similar boat, got an appointment in a week where I'm going to ask the gp for a referral. I know it's a horrible feeling but try (!) not to worry.

Pressed post too soon. Meant to add, your body has birthed a new human life! Don't be embarrassed at all! These sorts of post natal complications need more awareness, if you can't talk to your DH or GP about this entirely known after affect of giving birth/pregnancy, it's not helping other women out there who may not know they can get help - time to smash the post birth body taboos/lack of awareness, one small step at a time. Good luck!

I was referred to a physio for a prolapse after childbirth, I had no symptoms and felt totally normal but the doc spotted it whilst I was having treatment for some retained placenta. I’ve been to the physio twice and they have been great, she said that a huge percentage of women have a prolapse after birth they just don’t all have symptoms. She also told me about the NHS app Squeezy which is worth downloading. But 9 months post partum I now feel fine and sex is back to normal, things do get better. Please see your GP and talk to your partner.

Yes, insist on referral to a pelvic physio and possibly a urogynaecologist. 3 months is very early days. You need to be taught how to protect your pelvic floor whilst it heals, and strengthen it.

Please tell him.... and see your GP. Also it's early days and for a lot of women mild prolapses will sort themselves with exercises..but it takes a bit of time.
If it's severe then you need your GP to refer you asap.

I had a prolapse, rectocele and cystocele after my last baby...I was so depressed about it. But it was surgically fixed ( the prolapse... and I have learned to live with the other bits) and sex life is fine. It probably feels like the end of the world now, but it's not... honestly!

But tell him....

Have a talk with DH, I'm sure he'll understand. Things won't always be this bad, they will get better