Ds is 11, nearly 12. He plays cricket for a local team and the training has just restarted. It's on a Tuesday. Ex has always taken him to training and even does some coaching. In the summer when matches are on and the training is on a Friday and matches mainly at the weekend I do my share, but it's an unwritten rule that I can't do much as a full-time teacher. Certainly at this time of year I can't commit to coming out of school at 3.30 to drive to the training. Ex 'works from home' (does fuck all and pays nothing) so I feel no guilt in saying this is his thing - he got ds into it, he loves it and I can't facilitate it.
Ds has just told me that ex will be out of town tomorrow so he has arranged for ds to go to his house from school, wait there until5.30 when the coach will pick him up. They'll go training, and he will be dropped off to ex's empty house at about 7.30 when I will have to go and pick him up (not far, that aspect is ok) then give him tea. I just think going back to an empty house, then training with god knows what snack beforehand is not good enough. I trust the man as in ex and ds have known him for a few years now through the club, but what if he's delayed or something, or he gets there and ds1 is ill? I don't know, just seems shit to me. Just feels like ds would be a bit neglected, though to be fair he is a latch-key kid now anyway. Neither ds nor I have details for this man and ex is ignoring my texts as usual. Ds is perfectly happy with the plan.
What would you do?