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To ask if when you were a kid, you watched films

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almutasakieun · 21/01/2019 20:19

And would ask, why don't they do anything Daddy? If somebody was being hurt.
Could have been a cartoon of course, where Daddy hadn't a clue what he was supposed to be doing about, because he was fast asleep for half the film lol.
Of course in the end, maybe the characters in the film were biding their time before they could actually do anything. But you thought your Dad could solve the worlds problems.
Just started watching the film The Equalizer (about 10 minutes in) and I can hear my little voice going, why isn't he doing anything Daddy?
Am I the only one?

I'm a big girl now and I've lived a thousand lives that I never told my Dad about and am very lucky to be alive.

But still, in my heart, you want Daddy to fix it all? Even though they can't maybe (say you keep going back to a man who beats you up, or you suffer from PND). But when you're a kid, you have that unfailing faith in Mummy or Daddy to fix everything! Even people in films!

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almutasakieun · 21/01/2019 20:21

I don't even know what I'm asking. I guess I'm asking, were my parents unreasonable in making me believe that they would protect me from everything?

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3out · 21/01/2019 20:22

I don’t think I ever thought my parents could fix problems with people in films. Am I just cold hearted? :/
That’s lovely that you have such huge faith in your parents though!

3out · 21/01/2019 20:26

TBH, from your second question, maybe that’s why I don’t think my parents can fix everything. They always very much encouraged independence, and if we got hurt in the process then they turned it into a learning exercise. My mum was disabled when I was a child though, so I suppose I had a fairly ‘real’ awareness of the world and what my parents had power over.

DayManChampionOfTheSun · 21/01/2019 20:34

Mmm I didn't tell my parents about most of the films I watched as a child (used to steal horrors from parents room then sneak down in the middle of the night to watch them) so, no I never thought they could help.

However, it was watching TV that I realised your parents couldn't protect you from everything. It was a particularly dark episode of Midsomer Murders, a child was abducted and the dad was pushed away when trying to help her. I still remember the scene really clearly, I watched that over 20 years ago!

CaptainMarvelDanvers · 21/01/2019 20:38

I never asked that.

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almutasakieun · 21/01/2019 20:42

I guess it's the other side of it. The innocence of a child. Where people should intervene, and it makes perfect sense to you as a kid, that the nice man should help, but they don't in the films and you can't understand the myriad of reasons when people can't intervene sometimes.

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SaltedIceCream · 21/01/2019 20:44

Nope.

I have never thought that.

Oopsusernamealreadytaken · 21/01/2019 20:46

Never really felt like that, and still don’t really.

Was brought up with films like Labyrinth and Flight of the navigator and wanted to be in the actual film 😂

RayRayBidet · 21/01/2019 20:49

I was brought up watching James Bond from a young age. Also watched loads of old films with my grandma.
Never batted an eyelid at all the henchmen James Bond killed.

CandleConcerto · 21/01/2019 20:51

Not really. But I used to get so upset watching nature documentaries that the camera men didn’t rescue the prey from the predators. Couldn’t get my head around it at all!

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almutasakieun · 21/01/2019 20:52

Ok, well I was clearly a different sort of kid!

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Pernickity1 · 21/01/2019 21:11

Me too CandleConcerto!

I remember being utterly horrified by that and used to wreck my family’s heads as I’d go on an incensed tirade about how horrible they were not to stop it

CandleConcerto · 21/01/2019 21:14

The seals!! I saw the bludgeoned seals on the front page of the newspaper and I couldn’t cope! I was a member of the BUAV when I was 7!

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almutasakieun · 22/01/2019 09:43

PMSL I was the same as a kid. I was a member of some wildlife preservation thing (it had a panda as the logo?) since I was about 8 - you could get free membership if your were a child.
I had a poem published also at that age in a national magazine about some children I'd seen on the news in some war torn area of the world.

Must see if my Mum still has it.
I guess I was a melodramatic child!

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MsSquiz · 22/01/2019 09:53

I never thought things like that, but my father wasn't really present in my life at all from the age of 6 months old (other than 2 or 3 short visits a year!)

Looking back now, the film moment of my childhood that "got" me the most was when King Tritan give Ariel her legs to be with Prince Eric in The Little Mermaid - the thought that a dad could love his daughter so much he let her go even struck a chord with me as a very small child!

Birdsgottafly · 22/01/2019 09:57

"were my parents unreasonable in making me believe that they would protect me from everything?"

No they wasn't. Unless they also didn't empower you and gave you self belief, as you got older.

My Dad was violent amd my Mum detached, so I knew quite quickly that I could not only never rely on them, but they were the main danger.

Independence can only come from a secure base, so for those saying independence was encouraged, there was a unconditional sense of trust fostered first, even if you don't remember it.

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